Posted by Mrs_Jackson
At the end of April 2013 I finally came off the pill, ready to conceive our first baby on our honeymoon in the sunshine state of Florida.
I got my first period at the end of May, which set me up well for a period right before my wedding - which meant perfect timing for conception. Regardless of my plans, I was desperate in conceiving a baby and started using ovulation predictor kits the first month I came off the pill.
In the two month run up to the wedding I tried fertility lubricants, fertility his and hers tablets, instead softcups as well as charting my temperature and using a fertility monitor/ovulation sticks.
These two months where hell. I was constantly wanting to have sex - not for love or the fun, but because I wanted this baby so bad. Of course it did not happen. I felt guilty, because although I love my husband with all my heart, I felt like I was using him. Sometimes I would be so tired I would just make him "deposit" his seed.
I knew this was no way of making a baby, but when you have waited years and the time is finally here, its crazy what a woman would do to get that amazing second line.
With no luck I threw away every single fertility aid that I had - I kept my Folic Acid and Pre-Seed, as its an amazing lubricant and still like to use it now.
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I got married - it was a gorgeous and wonderful day, it just made me remember why we were together and how great our love was for each other. It was really special, it relaxed me and made me unwind. Just what I needed.
Whilst on holiday we had sex when we wanted to, nothing rushed or forced. Romantic, intimate ways of making love to each other. It literally was just perfect. I came home three weeks later and found out that I was expecting our first child, our honeymoon baby!
I really believe that making love creates a baby and the stress of trying for a child is a set back. Have you seen the success rate on pregnancy in woman that have "gave up trying" - its a lot higher than those actively trying.
I once asked my doctor - why do so many people get pregnant after one night stands, but some couples try years with no luck yet have no fertility problems. I always remember his reply.
"Exactly! They do not have the stress of trying. They are enjoying themselves and doing what nature has always intended"
He is certainly right! I am so glad our baby was conceived when he/she was and with making love. I am now ten weeks pregnant and although very ill with morning sickness, I would not change a thing!
Good Luck Ladies xxx
Added: Aug. 29, 2013