Posted by Sandeye
I'm currently 43 years old and I'm trying for my 4th baby. This is both a success story and a miracle that will hopefully inspire you to know that TTC can be a very difficult and painful journey and miracles do happen -- hopefully twice :)
I have two beautiful children -- a girl 12 and a boy 14 (transgender male and I am only mentioning this because I think its cool :)
I knew I wanted a third child after a difficult divorce and I met a great man that didn't have any biological children of his own. He had one tiny problem. We discovered he had 1%- 2% morphology after a series of infertility clinic testing (his sperm are oddly shaped which makes fertilization very difficult). Our hopes were dashed that we would even be able to conceive. Add our ages and that we needed to save for IVF and we were definitely losing hope of having a biological child of our own.
It took us 14 months of unprotected sex or five months of active trying to conceive but lo and behold I became pregnant May of 2014. We were both ecstatic. I had a normal, text book pregnancy with a mid wife and home birth, just like I did with my second child. Michael Tristan was born February 3, 2015 at 7.7 llbs a happy, healthy baby boy. The light of our lives and our little miracle.
Our son was born with a birth defect. He had a narrowed ureter which caused his urine to back up into his kidney and cause inflammation and UTI's. We discovered this accidentally when he was six months old after he became hospitalized after losing two lbs in less than four weeks.
He was referred to a leading paediatric hospital with a very prominent surgeon to undergo pyeloplasty surgery to fix his ureter. This is considered 'routine' surgery for a hospital of this calibre. I was very confident things would be fine and our son would come out of this ordeal with flying colours.
Tragically our Tristan passed away on October 5th, 2015 of sepsis - a massive infection in his kidney that spread to his entire body and shut down his organs only five days post surgery. We have discovered since his death that is was preventable and likely the hospital has a wrongful death/malpractice claim on their hands.
We lost our sweet beautiful baby boy after hopes that we would never conceive. After much thought and encouragement from my children, family and friends we are trying again and are in our fifth month of TTC. I am literally trying to do EXACTLY what we did to conceive last time in the hopes that if we had one miracle we can have another. Seems reasonable right?
I share this story for two reasons: I wish you a very successful TTC journey and I am ecstatic that I found this website so I know I'm not alone. There are so many ups and downs, frustrations and elations that happen in this journey. We all need an ear once in a while. And two, for your prayers that I get to be a mom one last time. I miss my baby so much and I would be honoured to be a mother again. Are two miracle babies asking too much?
Hugs to you all baby mamas!!
Added: Feb. 16, 2016