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I don't think this has to be a zero-sum problem, where you must trust one option (in this case, body, mind, OR dh) completely and ignore the others. It's neat that you sensed your previous pregnancies well before they showed up on hpts.
I have two straight answers:
1. Always listen to your body. Your mind is part of your body, and the two work inseparably. If you have doubt in your mind, but hope in your body, stay as positive as you can in case you are carrying. As for your husband, what can he do but be realistic? [see #2] Trust him to be trying his best to support you.
2. Don't cry wolf with your husband. It would be exhausting if he came home every week and announced that he's sure he won the lottery. Set a boundary for yourself about symptoms, and don't tell him (or yourself!) about them unless you cross into that 'more sure than not' zone. That way he will be excited for you when it really happens, rather than expecting another false like every other month. What I mean is, concentrate on living the life you have. Do things you love to do and the baby will come.

Sorry if that's harsh, but the question of pregnancy is never black and white in the beginning, and a lot of relationships can be compromised by treating it so.

Love and luck to you,
xoxo

No not harsh at all! Thanks after I posted my topic I went back and read it and I found my self saying , "what". I wrote this really late one night with my emotions all over the place. So I felt I kinda sounded like a kid Lol. I think your right about keeping things to myself. I haven't told my dh about anything this time (well the last week lol). I do think my dh supports me and keeps me grounded and he also know where I'm coming from. I have had two mc and I have this void. So since my post I have found that just like everything else in this world, of course through pray. I can find a balance in my mind about all this. When the time is right it will happen and I'll know. It's cool that there is a site that we can get crazy, sad, and happy and everyone understand.

Phew! I'm glad you saw what I meant :)
I'm not really in favour of keeping things from my dh, but when it came to every month wanting to share symptoms, after a while I noticed he wasn't really responding the way I was needing anyway. That's when I moved my obsession to this site with a lovely group of girls who can be just as crazy as me about all the different stuff going on. I learned a lot from them, and when I did finally get my bfp, my dh was nicely surprised.
Good luck and lots of love and positive thoughts!
xoxo Bee

it is really nice to be able to have this site! Thanks to sound advice (you). I'm just chillin and taking all of my symptoms and charting them. If I don't get a bfp then it's okay I will get one sooner or later. Well I'm happy for you and the baby And will be praying for you both !