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Oh my dear, I am so sorry you're going through this. :(

I did not have a d&c, mine came naturally. But I think what I've learned during this process is listen to your body. If after one cycle you feel ready again, I say go for it. If not , wait the two months. Your emotions and thoughts will be all over the place, but you just have to do what you think is best. Some doctors say that conceiving too soon causes another miscarriage, but I don't think that's true. But there's no guarantees either way. Was this your first pregnancy? It was mine...and I didn't think it'd end that way.

I hope you are able to heal quickly and get your rainbow baby! :)

I think for me, I'm so sad about not being pregnant anymore, that I just want to try again as fast as possible. At the same time, it was so heartbreaking that I'm afraid to go through a miscarriage all over again. I think I'll wait until march even though it feels so far away.

I'm sorry for your lost as well. We both know it's not a easy thing to go through. Are you planning on trying again?

This wasn't my first pregnancy, I do have a 7 year old daughter. For that pregnancy, I got pregnant so fast and I didn't go out my way to be healthy, I literally ate fast food and I can't even remember drinking that much water. For this pregnancy, it took months to get pregnant, then I made sure I was drinking a lot of water and cut out all fast food, having fruits everyday and this is how it ends. So disappointing.

I felt the exact same way after I lost my baby boy. But my body wasn't ready. Now its almost three months later, and we are finally trying again! I'm excited and nervous.

How is the rest of your family taking the loss? Must have been hard to explain to your little girl.

I hope you get your very soon. Did you tell people you were expecting?

My family and his family was heart broken as well. That's what made this miscarriage even harder to deal with. To keep having to repeat myself and telling my friends and family the bad news. It was like stabbing myself over and over again. This time me and my DH decided not to tell anyone if I do become pregnant again. It's just easier not to deal with.

My daughter cried. Which was even more heart breaking for me to see. She kept saying things like "I will never be a big sister" but I keep telling her that it will happen, it's just going to take more time. I felt so bad, she was so excited.

I agree, having to tell people about it added to the hurt. Luckily we told a few close people and they helped spread the word, so we weren't having to tell everyone over and over again. I was 13/14 weeks, so just starting second trimester, which I figured was the "safe zone". I know now there's no such thing. :( But I also think we'll wait longer to announce next time. Buuuut I'm really bad at holding things in, so we'll see how that goes. :)

I thought 12 weeks was a safe zone also but things happen. I know it's going to make me nervous if I do become pregnant again. I think I'll be overly worried and always wondering if everything is okay. I always assume with every miscarriage there is signs to tell you something is wrong but that didn't happy for me.

It's hard for me to keep secrets too. Hopefully I could hold out long enough. I also hope it doesn't take months to conceive again, because that 2 week wait can feel like forever.

I am so sorry for your losses.

I have just started to try again after I had a D&C on the 10th November. I got my BFP on the 14th September and went for my 12 week scan to be given the worst news ever that their was no heartbeat :( and it was twins. I could not believe that not only had I lost 1 but I had lost both :(
They told me they stopped growing at about 8 and a half weeks.
I was in total shock as I had no bleeding or pain whatsoever and couldn't understand why I had lost both of them!
After my D&C I had spotting for around 6 weeks and after a 9 week wait have just got my period.
They told me that I could try again as soon as we were ready so this is now our first month trying and am on cycle day 7. I have no idea if my cycles are going to be regular or not as I have heard a miscarriage affects people in different ways so fingers crossed.

I am excited to try again but at the same time scared something's going to go wrong again :(

Caz
I'm sorry for your lost as well. Losing one baby is hard enough, but losing two is double the heartbreak.

I'm kind of upset that it took 12 weeks to check on the heartbeat. I've read many times that they can hear the heartbeat earlier then 12 weeks. I believe when I get pregnant again I will demand to be checked earlier. Reaching the 12 week mark especially with no sign of a miscarriage (just like you), I really thought I was in the "safe zone" and to receive that news was just devasting.

After the D&C I didn't bleed much, it was only about 5 days. If I calculated correctly, I should start my period next week. My goal is to start trying again in the end of February. I can't wait to try again but I also know I'm going to be scared too. I really don't want to go through this again.

How many days were your cycles before your pregnancy? And are you going to track your ovulation?

With no signs at all and extremely bad morning sickness I also thought everything would be ok at my 12 week scan and like you have said next time I'm going to ask for an earlier scan. I had told family I was pregnant but next time will wait until we know everything is ok as it just added to the heartbreak.

My cycles have always been 33 days so hoping it will be that and no longer. I have bought some ovulation tests so I will start testing at prob day 12. I am also quite lucky that I get ovulation type cramping so can normally tell when I am.

Do you know if you ovulated this month? And how long are your cycles?

Caz

I don't know if I ovulated this month, but normally I have 26 CDs. I never used the ovulation test to track. I was tracking my cramps on this app called P tracker. Everytime I had my period, the day I had cramps fell on what the app said was the day I ovulated. So I figured they are ovulation cramps. I tried to read up on it and I read that everyone is different, some people cramp before ovulation and some during or after. If you do get to use the ovulation test this time around, I would like to know if it match up to the day you had cramps.