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My husband had the same issue..we ended up having to use a donor to have a baby.

Hi Nats! I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My husband was diagnosed with azoospermia 2 years ago. It took my hubby a while to come to terms and we are now starting our third IUI with donor sperm cycle. Theres a great forum at this site the ladies are great and very helpful most have been dealing with this for a while now. http://forums.fertilitycommunity.com/male-factor-infertility/260227-azoospermia.html Good luck If you have any questions or need anything feel free to pm me!

We're the docs able to tell you why your DHs had azoospermia? We are waiting to see a fertility specialist in our area because my fiance has non obstructive azoospermia because of chemo, radiation and bone marrow transfers from pediatric brain cancer. We are hoping that there is something that can be done for us such as IVF with TESE and ICSI...have anyone of you talked to docs about these options to find sperm and in Vitro fertilize eggs? We would much rather not have to use donor sperm if possible. Thanks!

Sugarbear: I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My Dh also had cancer as a child and went through chemo and radiation so that seems to be the reason. We actually had a phone consult with Dr. Turek in San Francisco he specializes in male infertility and based on my husbands bloodwork and semen analysis and medical history he gave us a 10% chanceof finding anything. To us personally a 10% chance was not worth the $10,000 it was going to be then the $30,000 price it would cost for the ICSI and IVF if it did work. Can't raise a baby if we were broke trying to have one. Honestly it took us two years to open our minds and hearts to donor sperm. My husband wouldn't even talk about it for a long time but once he decided it was the right choice financially then the rest came easily. We are going onto our 4th cycle and my husband and I really don't think about the fact that we are doing it with donor sperm anymore. To us it's become a natural part of having a baby. We can't wait to be mommy and daddy and blood does not make or break that. I'm not trying to force you into anything. If the doctors give you a good percentage and you can afford to make it happen then thats great I hope you are able to make that happen. I just wanted to explain that this was not our first choice and we never thought we'd be in this position but we are and are very happy and excited about our decision now. Good luck!

Wow, thank you for your quick and honest reply. I hope so much that you and your husband get a BFP super soon. I will just have to wait and see what the doc says about us because that is something we can't afford unless someone helps out a lot and I don't think my family would. My mother is pretty unsupportive. When I went to her to talk because I was upset and she actually told me to make a choice of never being a mommy or finding a new man....and said it should be simple! I couldn't believe she would give up that fast...neither of those choices are an option for me. We will all overcome this infertility.

Sugarbear: thank you! I start injections on Friday I can't wait lol! It is a very expensive process im sorry you don't have help or support. I can't believe your mom would say something so mean. Im hoping that she just doesn't understand that you have other choices you can be mommy and still be with the manyou love. hope she learns to be more supportive for you and your Dh. I remember my Dh saying things like that to me when we first found out, he told me a couple times that I should leave and find someone who could give me a baby. It was heartbreaking. I couldn't believe he would think that was even an option, it never entered my mind to leave him.. Anyways like I said before it took him time to realize that we had other options and I'm sure your mom will come around to it. Your right we will all overcome infertility!

Hi ladies,
Not sure if i really need to be in this forum but my partner and i have been trying unsucssesfully for 12 months and i have been check but we are waiting for xmas to get him checked i think he is afraid of somthing like you guys are going through might happen to us, i understand his decision to wait and completely support him, i have allways known in the back of my head for some reason the conceiving wouldnt come easliy, i dont know why but i knew, some people thorght i was obsured thinking that and said "how do you know somthing like that will happen you will be fine" but low and behold 12 months later here we are, I cant do much until we know what the problem is, i might get a second opinion i think to be sure, got disheartened for a bit and stopped trying but we are giving it a go again this cycle im on cycle day 8 today and my cycles have been ranging from 26 to 30 days so i might start ov testing today, any help with approaching this touchy subject with my partner to get him to get checked soon would help so much, Thanks for taking the time to read my story ;)

Stillfuntryin: I'm sorry that you are going through this. I can say my Dh had no problem getting his first SA I think because he figured it would come back fine. But it did take him almost a full year to get the second one which the doctor suggested to make sure the first wasn't messed up. It's funny you say you always knew you'd have problems conceiving, as I always knew too although I always thought the problems would be on my end and not my future husbands' does you husband have any medical history that might lead him to believe he would have azoospermia? If not it could be a blockage which would be a pretty easy fix. It could also just mean a low count and with that you might be able to still conceive with an IUI. I'm not sure how old you are but I would def. want my husband to get checked sooner rather then later because if something is wrong it could take quite a bit of time to figure everything out. It took my Dh 2 years after the first SA to be able to come to terms and move on. 2 years can make a big difference in the infertility world. Has your doctor checked to see if your ovulating properly. Have you tried clomid? Sorry for all the questions Wishing u both the best!

My DH thought he had super sperm...I also had a feeling we would have problems from both of us. I have had many docs tell me that I would prob need something to trigger ovulation...and that I might have an issue with miscarrage. I knew how erratic my cycles were and his history with cancer. I think since he had cancer at such a young age and has been healthy for so long he assumed everything was great. He knows how much we want a baby and how much time and effort I have put into learning everything I can. He wanted to start trying a couple of years ago and I said no because I had just started school again and wanted to at least get a year or so done first. So after 6 months I was going to try and see my doc again but suggested a home test for him first since tests for men are non- invasive and because of his history my docs said he should get tested ASAP. The home fertility test for men was a lot less stressful, he said no prob and we ordered 2 different tests. After there were NO sperm...I told him we needed to see a real doc to get some answers. I assumed he would need time to cope with it since he was a little upset when we didn't see anything. The next day he brought home a number for a fertility clinic that a friend of his used. I was so proud of him, he was ready to get going a lot faster than I thought but since the fertility clinic wants to charge me and not his insurance we're going to see a urologist first. On the 29th of this month! A lot of times men associate their fertility with their manhood and dont deal well with MFI. The main thing to make ur DH realize is that you support him and that he wouldn't love you any less if the infertility was on your end and you would never love him less for it either. Having a baby is a 2 person job...and some people just have to work harder at it than others...the main thing is that you're in it together and both want the same outcome....a happy, healthy baby!!! Sorry for the wordiness...I wish you all the best! def be proactive because if you can find e root of the problem you can hopefully find a solution. I wish I had said yes yo starting a family whe. He wanted to because we would have been a few years ahead of where we are now. I would have been almost 27 instead of almost 30!

Im 27 and he is 29, both fit and healthy, no problems as such... we live and work in the country so chemicals are a daily occourance which may play a part, we have tried to steer clear from them now we are ttc but who knows what damage they have already done, im not very familar with the mens side, if they have a blockage will they have ejaculation, i am pretty sure that i ovulate, i get ov pains and i have done a little charting, first it was saliva testing then opk's then temping and checking cervix, all seem to be ok, when i got checked i did 2 blood samples that checked for STD's 2 urine tests (dont know what they were for) and external ultrasound and an internal ultrasound, they didnt check my tubes but ( well not the way that i thourght they did, i thourght they did the dye thing and they didnt do that) she could see a folacle that was very ripe but i thourght i had already ov'd and i think i t was around 5dpo, period came 9 days after so i may have ov'd 2 times that cycle, dont really know, i was using folate supplement with all the other vitmins that they tell you to use but after 1 yr they were feeling like a waste of time so i deceided that i would take them again when i got preg, im doing opk,s again this cycle see how we go...