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I have been ttc for 19 months now. I totally understand the emotional rollercoaster! I have had 3 close friends and my younger sister all have babies since my husband and I started trying. The worst part is when they start saying that they are about to try for a second and I cant even get pregnant once.

I have a huge craft room and I was a quilting maniac for a while. That helped a lot in the beginning because like you said it was nice to do something to prepare for a new baby. Unfortunately it turned on me and I cant even think of making another baby thing because it just reminds me of how long it is taking. I have a spare room upstairs just waiting to be a nursery with all of the crocheted blankets and quilts that I have made.

But on a good note, now I bake... like A LOT! I feel like I make a different baked good every day! It is something that doesn't make me think of a baby and it gets my mind off of life! I also try to cook nice dinners for my husband and I but I'm not that good at cooking . Much better at baking!

I try to stay positive and tell myself that it will happen someday and some days are harder than others! We just have to keep our heads up and do whatever makes you feel better

AKHopeful,
I totally get it, everyone around me seems to get pregnant without trying or wanting it. My partner and i have decided to try hard with lots of BDing, tracking my temps and using pre seed etc until august. If we dont have a bfp by then we will get more tests. Ive already had a blood test to confirm ovulation and am going to get an ultrasound to check for pcos. Have u had any tests done yet?

Yes. at my 1 year mark in April I had the blood test done and when I went in for the ultrasound they found a tennis ball sized tumor on my right ovary so in May I had that removed. After that I promised my husband that I wouldn't get sad or cry until next May... so I am trying to reset in my head! If we haven't succeeded by May then the next step is to have a sperm analysis but he is not too excited about that.
I use to chart my temp and CM before the surgery and everything looked great time wise. I bought the fancy thermometer with a 90 day memory and an alarm clock so that you wake up at the exact same time every day. I have used about 8 tubes of pre-seed. I have used both the diva cup and the disposable softcups to keep the sperm inside for longer... I have a medicine cabinet that would probably put a pharmacy out of business with vitamins. Oh and I have a large collection of essential oils that I have used both in regular baths and massage along with diffusing at my desk at work.
We bought a new house last month though and I am trying to just put all of that aside and just be ourselves for a while and not think about all of the tips and tricks. My last thought is to do what all of the ANNOYING people keep saying "just stop trying"