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I'm 40+ and 1-DPO Need support

Category: Trying to Conceive - 40+ and TTC
Posted by bhopali » 4 weeks ago

Looking for some much needed support from 40+ first time TTC ladies out there.

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Reply by 4babies » 4 weeks ago

I am 33 with 4 children. I was a young mother. Now as an adult, my husband and I are having trouble conceiving. I am 5DPO. I am praying all goes well. Although I am not 40 or a first time mother, I can be a great support for you in addition to others. I hope thing works out.

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Reply by bhopali » 4 weeks ago

Thank you for your support! I feel I'm in minority on those blogs hence I was so specific! :) We have been TTC for a few months. DH had a vasectomy Reversal in July and his numbers are finally up and normal. Hoping we nailed it this cycle.



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Reply by Tara3711 » 3 weeks ago

Hi! I'm a few days behind you but am on CD2. I am 41 and ttc. I really thought this last cycle was it but I guess I was wrong.

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Reply by bhopali » 3 weeks ago

Hey Tara3711 - Nice to see another girl 40's in TTC mode! I am 6DPO today. I had the same thing happen to me last cycle. My husband got his vasectomy reversal in July. His sperm analysis results came out really good just around the same time we were trying last cycle and so we thought we probably nailed it! But alas no. So hoping we get it done this cycle. Is this your first one? It is first one for me. Thank you for your support and baby dust to everyone!



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Reply by emailbrittny » 3 weeks ago

I am 40 and ttc #3. We have 3 children but none together. So we are trying for one child together. Its been about 3 cycles now, but this one is messing with me, I have had days of almost positive opks, but lots of physical signs I o'd. I had IUD removal early October and chemical pregnancy in November. Had a normal period finally in December and now just waited to confirm o. Good luck to you and your husband.


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Reply by lneist001 » 3 weeks ago

Hello. 37 here and try #1. Be 38 soon and DH is 41. We are 10dpo this cycle and got a bfn. The age thing scares me. A friend is 43. Had first at 41 and has had nothing but issues. It's good to have people for support during this exciting and scary, joyful yet anxious time.

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Reply by bhopali » 3 weeks ago

Lovely to see you all you ladies in the support group! Yes age thing does scare me too hence I started the thread thinking that others must be same shoes as I am. What kind of issues your friend is experiencing? I'm just curious. Did she have trouble getting pregnant?

I am 6dpo (not CD 6 as I said earlier by mistake! !) and hoping to get news at 14dpo. Every cycle I get so nervous around the time I'm expecting AF. It is getting worse every cycle. My nerves get the best of me! My cycles are pretty stable. Been using OPKs and Clear Blue Fertility Monitor since last cycle and able to pin point the Ovulation Day. My luteal phase stays at 14 days so if I know when I ovulated I know AF will arrive exactly on 14th day. So I don't even bother doing a PT and just wait for AF to not arrive! And so far she has not missed the mark. Plus in first few cycles I got trapped in the "spot symptom nightmare" that I have been able to avoid this cycle. Just keeping busy and not think about if my boobs being sore and or am I having cramps on right pelvic side! UGH!

Thank you again for all the support ladies. Would love to hear what kind of ovulation tests everyone is using.

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Reply by lneist001 » 3 weeks ago

Hello! So I haven't used any ovulation testing products yet. I do my BBT every morning. I have to do it in the bathroom instead of in bed as my DH works nights and don't want to disturb him. That is amazingly a good direction of when to expect AF and to know when ovulation has occurred. I haven't done it long enough to know if there is a pattern. I'll know more next month to have a few months comparison. My cycles aren't consistent. And the length of AF is so variable. I did just buy some Clear Blue Ovulation testers though to try that next month. I guess if I need to which I'm hoping not, but... I tested yesterday and got a BFN. I know it was early, at 9dpo, but the nerves are killing me also. It's so difficult and I'm not sure if I should discuss that with my DH or not. We are newly married and I"m still figuring it all out. Another thing that worries me is can we even have children. We don't know. We haven't been trying long enough to know if there is a problem and we should go in. Ever since we got married and trying right away, it has totally consumed me with really wanting to get pregnant.

My friend has not had troubles ttc. Their first was a miscarriage but now two in two years. 11 months apart. YIKES :) . But each during pregnancy has been an issue. Just kicking her but physically. There are some health issues of babies also. This one she is due in a month has heart issues, the first baby was something much more minor but still issues. They call her a geriatric mother because of being over 35 which I think is crazy. She is 43 and it has about done her in. IT makes me very nervous.


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Reply by Tara3711 » 3 weeks ago

Hi ladies! I have one daughter who is 9. In 2005 I had an early miscarriage and the got pregnant the next month but ended up losing him at 37 weeks while I was in labor, I then got pregnant with my daughter four moths later and I delivered her at 36 weeks. I had another early miscarriage last May 2015 while I was on the pill. Ever since last May we have tried a little but not actively trying until this September. I am using the ovulation tests and my cycle seems to be around 28 to 29 days so I'm fortunate that my cycles are regular and I am still ovulating every month. My dh is 45 and soon to be 46 next month so feel like the pressure is on because of his age and mine. We do not have a child together and would really like one especially since the miscarriage last year. Plus, I would love to give my daughter a living sibling.

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Reply by bhopali » 3 weeks ago

Hey lneist001 - I haven't been doing BBT. Not sure I'd be very good at it. CLBM and OPKs are enough to overwhelm me! They do say that BBTs are better at pin-pointing the exact OV day. And yes I know it pretty much kills you to not know. One thing is that I don't tell my DH hence I am here talking to you ladies! He can tell by my state of mind that I'm struggling but I usually don't say it out loud. I did get tested before we decided to get DH's Vasectomy reversed. My OB/GYN did some blood work (FSH etc.) on me to determine if I was still viable given I'm 42 and never been pregnant before. Once we knew I was still viable, then we got DH's VR done. And now I do get peaks on CLBM every month and have been getting for past few months. So just keeping my fingers crossed that it'll happen soon. Your friend's story worries me but my OB/GYN already told me the risks involved and I'm just taking my chance. I wish we weren't just born with fixed number of eggs. I wish we could produce more eggs throughout our lifetime just like men produce sperms! Oh well!

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Hey Tara3711: So sorry to hear your story. Hang in there! My cycles are same as yours. 28-29 days. My DH is 44. And has 2 kids from previous relationships. We just want to have one of our own before it is too late for the both of us.

Happy Holidays to everyone! Hopefully the Christmas cheer will bless us all!



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Reply by lneist001 » 3 weeks ago

@bhopali

I did talk with my DH a little on Friday. I woke up crabby with him for no reason It was good for us to talk and we were able to share our concerns for getting pregnant instead of us both living in our own heads. It was hard but it really helped us both instead of sitting in this waiting game alone. So we are out this month and will try again. We talked about going in to get tested. Not sure how long we will wait.

Merry Christmas!

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Reply by crazy hitch » 2 weeks ago

I'm 38 soon to be 39 and my partner is 44 ... 8dpo and bfn. Had IUD removed in August. Wishing everyone luck on this ttc journey.

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Reply by Noemi16 » 1 week ago

Hi, i just turned 40 years old few weeks ago. Today i am 12 dpo and got a strong positive!! I had a misscaridge over a year ago, and a CP exactly a year ago. This would be my first baby. I believe that for us ladies takes just a bit more time to conceive than for younger women, thats all. If its possible, try not to think about it, enjoy sex with your Husband and it will happen. That is the one thing i did different this month. Good luck and i wish you all the best!

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Reply by bhopali » 1 week ago

Congratulations for BFP Noemi16! So happy to hear one of us getting some good news!

And thank you for words of encouragement. Yes it's true, patience is your best friend in this time of trying. I am out this cycle as AF arrived 2 days earlier than usual. But I am going for a consult and reproductive health check at a Fertility clinic tomorrow. I did have some basic blood work done last year to make sure my FSH and other levels were normal and but now I am going in for more comprehensive testing. I just want to make sure I am a-okay and not have to wait for a year to find out that I have some underlying issue that will prevent me from conceiving naturally. Just don't have time for that given I will be 43 this year.

Good Luck to everyone on this thread! I am CD8 today and will start CLBM testing tomorrow. Hoping this is my cycle!!!



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Reply by lneist001 » 1 week ago

Hey All! Well, round 3 here. I'm at cd11 and yesterday and today I got positive results on my fertility prediction kits. SO you know what that means. :) A few more days and then that dreaded tww. The tough part, I think I'm getting sick and you know that just zaps your energy for any kind of fun. So, we will push through it. My DH has been sweet. He is so excited for this to happen. He keeps asking, is it time yet, is it time yet... ha ha. LOVE HIM.

Praying for all of us!

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Reply by bhopali » 1 week ago

lneist001! And glad to hear that your DH is supporting you this way. My DH doesn't want to know anything about OPKs or anything like that! He thinks it kills his "mood"! He likes other subtle messages like me wearing lingerie out of the blue and then he knows it is time!!! Ha ha!

I am going in for my fertility consult today. Let's see what the doctor says. Keeping my fingers crossed.

All the best ladies!!!

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Reply by Tara3711 » 1 week ago

Good morning ladies! My tww just started and I'm not looking forward to it at all! I ve been trying to get over being sick and I'm not sure we timed everything right so I wish we could just fast forward to next month.

Are you ladies taking anything over the counter to help with trying to pregnant except for prenatal vitamins? There are so many things out there but I just don't know what is good and what isn't.

Baby dust to all!!!

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Reply by bhopali » 1 week ago

Hey GM Tara3711! No I don't take anything other than pre-natal vitamins. Yes there is too much stuff out there and nothing is truly proven to affect your chances one way or the other. I just try to eat healthy and keep my alcohol and caffeine intake in moderation. Also, my DH watches his alcohol intake and diet, especially around peak time.

Hope you guys feel better and try not to get too sick. I got sick during my TWW last cycle with a stomach bug and to a certain extent I feel like that may have affected my chances.

Hang in there ladies!



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Reply by lneist001 » 1 week ago

bphopali... hoping you get good news at your fertility appointment. I had to make a DR. apt for a procedure that I need to have and we deiced that, at that time (Feb. 17) if we aren't pregnant we would talk with our Doc about our levels and options. That gives us this month and next a total of 5 for trying. It's better to get on it when your older. Praying for good news and all is well.

... I don't take anything either other than Prenatal vitamins. I'm not sure all the over the counter stuff is worth it. I think a lot of it has to do with healthy eating and such.

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Reply by bhopali » 1 week ago

Hey Ladies! I have good news and bad news from my consultation with Fertility specialist.

Good news first. She did an ultrasound to check up on my uterus and ovaries and everything looks great and they see ovarian follicles as they should be on CD9. 10 follicles on right and 7 on left and ready to pop up for this cycle.

Bad news is that given my age, IVF is my best option. Not even IUI. Reason is that quality of my eggs is going down everyday and I would be high-risk mother as it is. So she recommends going for IVF asap. So a lot to take in at them moment. I have a follow up with her in 2 weeks. She also took blood and urine samples to do more analysis of my hormones etc. I will be talking to DH tonight and weigh out our options. I will keep you ladies updated on my decision. If I go with IVF, the soonest I can go in is end of February bcoz you have to be on fertility medication for up to 3 weeks.

Also, about over the counter supplements. Well this specialist already told me take three of those! I didn't even have to ask her and she directly told me that these supplements help improving the quality of eggs and so I should be on them. So if anyone is interested, you can try these, I have already ordered mine.

CoQ10 200 mg 3x/Day (with BF, lunch and dinner)
Baby Aspirin 81 mg (once a day)
DHEA 25 mg 3x/Day (BF, lunch and dinner)

Hope you ladies are having a great day so far!



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