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Oh, Oreos!! I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through!

That's a deeply personal decision to have to make. My gut instinct is that I couldn't stay and raise a baby with someone I can't trust, but I can't imagine how much more complicated the decision would be if I were actually in your shoes.

How are you doing today?

We have two kids, he's a great father, and provider. Just a shitty husband. I think I'm leaving. Regardless of the pregnancy. I love the guy to death, but I don't think I'm in love with him anymore. Does that even make sense?

I've decided since, I was going to leave before the baby why would that change. A child doesn't change another person.

Hi hun,

You are in such a shit situation but if I was in your shoes then I would leave.
I am nearly 28 weeks pregnant and if I found out my partner had been messing about like that then I would leave him. It would be such a hard decision but you have to think about yourself and the unborn baby. You do not need the stress that your husband seems to be bringing to you.
There are loads of single women out there raising babies, my best friend was 4 weeks pregnant when she found out her husband had been cheating on her for months. Now the baby is 5 months old and she is coping so well and she is happy with another man.
There is so much hope for you, you just have to be strong.

Good Luck

Thanks, I'm 4 weeks right now. It's hard, because I have been a stay at home mom for 4 years. I'm getting a job hopefully within the next month with people I knew before I had my first with a supportive work culture. I know I can do this. It's just intimidating.

Hi,
Get him to go stay with friends or family to take some of the anxiety off your shoulders, it's the last thing you need at this stage of pregnancy. Have you thought of talking to a professional who can help sort out the mountain of feelings your going through? The one tip I was given was never make a decision when things are raw, always get space and take your time deciding.
He has done a horrible thing to you and no one deserves that but only you know what's best for you.
I'm so sorry your going through this, especially at a time when you should be overjoyed

And congratulations sweetie!

I'm actually pretty ok emotionally. I've known for years, it's been an on and off thing. Where I've given numerous chances to change. I'm just basically at the point where I realized I don't trust him. And since deciding I was done, I've been less stressed about what he's doing, if he's doing something, etc. I just don't care. We get along great, he's a great dad. Like I said 2 kids, and I'm not messing up their routine so I can think. I have 12+ hours a day to think without him around.

I just had way more anxiety when I wanted everything to work out.

Now I'm ok. I am emotionally disconnected from him now. He can't hurt me anymore.

You sound like a strong and independent woman, good luck and wishing you all the best for the future