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Any other ladies waiting to try again after a miscarriage?

Hi ladies, it's been a month since my miscarriage and still bleeding and waiting for hcg to go away (@ 42 last I checked)

Just seeing if there are any other ladies in a similar situation hoping for their rainbow soon! Please let's help support and encourage one another! :)


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I just miscarried 4 days ago...The bleeding is getting lighter but it's still here. DH and I want to try again ASAP...but I don't know if you're supposed to wait or how long or if you can start right away.
Sorry I can't answer your question but I can offer support and let you know I'm in the same boat.
Much love and I am so sorry, this is terrible I know.

9 years ago


Hey ladies! I am so sorry for your losses. I'm glad to see you all are ready to ttc again so soonn, just like me :) I would like to share my story...I found out I was pregnant October 10 and it shortly ended on October 25. My doctor said it was fine to ttc again immediately after as long as we were ok emotionally. I am almost certain I o'd on the 5th of this month...I am now 12dpo and I am hopeful but scared. I haven't had many symptoms so it has kind of made me feel like I'm going to be out this month. Last month my tatas hurt so bad I couldn't even look at them! I had every pregnancy symptom under the sun but nausea. All day today I have bouts of nausea, new thing....and my tatas are only slightly sensitive if I feel on them. Just a little bit ago I had a strong pulling sensation/cramp(almost? Idk) And for the past 2 days I have had a very abundant amount of CM. Is this a good sign? I'm hoping and praying DH and I will get a and be one of the lucky couples that become preggo immediately following a miscarriage. What about you ladies??


Trying for #2 DS- August 19, 2009 May 2011 October 25, 2014 BFP--December 2, 2014----Hopeful for a sticky little bean!

9 years ago


Hi Ladies,

So sorry for your losses. I found out I was PG on Nov 5th and lost it on Nov 10th. I was only 5 weeks. But I am having a hard time with the fact that my bday is Friday, the holidays are here and the nurse said the doctor wants to wait til I have 2 periods before we start IUI's again. She strongly suggested we use foam and condoms. I asked what would happen if we got PG before the 2 periods and she said to at least wait 1 period before we try on our own. But the concern was they were worried I would miscarry again right away. I have an appt with the doc on Dec 4th so hopefully I will get more answers. We have been trying for 20 cycles so after we have a period I don't see why we couldn't try on our own for a month. I would be so shocked if it worked out for us next cycle but since it didn't happen in the 19 cycles before the IUI, well let's just say I'm not holding my breath. Then we can do the IUI in Jan.

But this month I have decided to take advantage of it...I am still going to temp & test with an OPK to make sure I am still ovulating and I am going to pay attention to my symptoms. No sex means there are no chances of becoming pregnant...so I will be able to truly tell what my symptoms are this month as opposed to symptoms I have had during this LONG TTC journey.

It just sucks that we have to go through this.


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9 years ago


Hello Lolo!

I am currently in the same postition after a loss, and from almost EVERYTHING I have read states that having a miscarriage does not mean you will go on to have another. Nor will it increase your chances of another miscarriage. My Doctor told me in the beginning of this month that it was perfectly fine to ttc again immediately as long as we were emotionally ok. I say, if you are ok to start trying again THEN DO SO! It's your body girlfriend! The only reason they say to wait for a cycle or two is for dating the pregnancy. That is it! I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know that God awful feeling and it's such a terrible loss. One of my dear friends told me to think of it like this....your baby was so perfect it got to go straight to Heaven with Jesus. It did bring me a little peace. Another thing she told me, was the baby I lost could be the reason my next little bean sticks :) I hope you find peace with the loss of precious baby and I send tons of and your way! Don't forget to enjoy the bd'ing and start again as soon as YOU are ready! Good luck to you mama!


Trying for #2 DS- August 19, 2009 May 2011 October 25, 2014 BFP--December 2, 2014----Hopeful for a sticky little bean!

9 years ago


Thank you LogansMommy08.

I have been doing a lot of blaming myself lately and I still feel like it's my fault in a couple ways. One, I should've called right away, as soon as I saw the BFP. Then maybe they would have noticed my progesterone was low and put me on something right away. And two, I guess I am considered Obese. Even though I don't wear plus size clothes. But I do wear 16/18 misses. But according to an article I read, I will try to post it below... it's by Shady Grove Fertility, it states that women overweight have a higher chance of mc's. For the longest time I believed that as long as you were ovulating on time then you didn't have a problem or that's what someone told me in these forums a while ago. Now I read this article and it sorta freaks me out. I have tried to lose weight...But I refuse to go and sign up with some group to lose it...I don't want to pay for that. Granted, since I was PG I haven't had much of an appetite and even now still not that hungry...maybe that's a considered a blessing. Thinking during these couple of months maybe I will start to try and workout some at home. The doctor told me not to work out but to start eating better. But that just doesn't seem to be doing enough. Thinking maybe a light workout or something.

http://blog.shadygrovefertility.com/2014/11/13/the-truth-about-weight-and-fertility/


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9 years ago


I would definitely not worry about being "obese"! Don't be so hard on yourself. There is nothing you could have done to prevent the miscarriage nor nothing that could have been done to stop it. I know it's hard not to blame yourself, but please don't. You are no more at risk for a miscarriage than any other woman, imo. I am in a size 10 and I have had 2 miscarriages. I have a friend whom is badly overweight, wearing pants larger than 20's and she has had 3 perfectly healthy pregnancies. So please don't fall into the rut that you must be a stick figure to have a better chance at having a baby. Your time will come, just like mine hopefully, but it won't happen until it's the right time. On a positive note, (even though m/c is absolutely terrible in all ways) at least you know that you are physically able to get pregnant. And from what I have been told, a woman has a slightly higher chance of carrying to full term after a loss because your fertility is increased. So try to stay positive mama! Your time will come, just keep pushing forward and NEVER GIVE UP ON WHAT YOU WANT :) !!!!!


Trying for #2 DS- August 19, 2009 May 2011 October 25, 2014 BFP--December 2, 2014----Hopeful for a sticky little bean!

9 years ago


So sorry for all of your losses :(

But glad you are here and keeping up hope! :)

Logansmommy, any word on whether you are pregnant this month?! Or are you waiting to test?

And Lolo, she's right . Most miscarriages are not preventable, you didn't do anything wrong. I had such a hard time with this, thinking of all the different things I might have done wrong. But none of them were the case. Please don't beat yourself up, it makes a tough time even tougher. :/

Oh and I also heard from my doctor that you don't need to wait! There may be special cases, but most people are safe to try again whenever they feel ready!

I'm really hoping we all get our rainbows soon ! I still have slight spotting and a little hcg in me, so I can't even try yet. But I'm hoping within the next few days it will be gone!!! I'm so ready to have something to look forward to again, and a healthy baby in my arms.. :D


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So sorry for all of your losses :(

But glad you are here and keeping up hope! :)

Logansmommy, any word on whether you are pregnant this month?! Or are you waiting to test?

And Lolo, she's right . Most miscarriages are not preventable, you didn't do anything wrong. I had such a hard time with this, thinking of all the different things I might have done wrong. But none of them were the case. Please don't beat yourself up, it makes a tough time even tougher. :/

Oh and I also heard from my doctor that you don't need to wait! There may be special cases, but most people are safe to try again whenever they feel ready!

I'm really hoping we all get our rainbows soon ! I still have slight spotting and a little hcg in me, so I can't even try yet. But I'm hoping within the next few days it will be gone!!! I'm so ready to have something to look forward to again, and a healthy baby in my arms.. :D

I tested this morning at 14 dpo and :( I am still 3 days away from when my period is supposed to start...assuming I have a regular cycle after my miscarriage....I want this so bad, and after this bfn I just want to cry. I feel like I was just being silly thinking I could get preggo again immediately.

Lolo- I hope you are feeling better! Please don't beat yourself up! I have faith that we all will get our rainbow babies soon :)

As soon as the hcg goes down get to bd'ing! LOL :) I hope you get your healthy baby in your arms too, along with all the other ladies that obsess over this ttc stuff...I know I have been going nuts! I wish it were as simple as laying down with DH and bam there is a bun in the oven...unfortunately, that's not the case for MANY of us! I get so upset sometimes thinking about how some people have it so easy while others of us have to do everything we can and still come up empty handed. But I have to keep my faith that God will give me my rainbow baby when He says the time is right. It's so hard to do that though :( I will be praying that we all have a BFP soon!
!!


Trying for #2 DS- August 19, 2009 May 2011 October 25, 2014 BFP--December 2, 2014----Hopeful for a sticky little bean!

9 years ago


LogansMommy08: Thank you. You have made me feel better about the Obese comment. I had said that to a friend and she looked at me like I was nuts. She's overweight too...kinda like my build. She can't believe that the numbers showed for what they did under Obese. I figured I would workout at home when I can but I am not going to overdo it. Because you are right...Lots of women bigger than me have had perfectly healthy babies. I think I am just feeling sorry for myself. I hate my weight and used to be a size 12. Then I quit smoking and well, I blew up.

I am so sorry you got a BFN. But remember it's not over until AF sings or cackles. DH & I tried on our own without meds or IUI for 19 cycles and never saw a BFP. The one time we have an IUI and we finally saw it. So, I will do as the RN asks and wait at least 1 period. If we aren't lucky then at least I know we will get to doing an IUI. With the holidays it's so hard to schedule stuff around it and unfortunately my fertile week is during Thanksgiving week and Christmas week. And since I am going to be swamped during Thanksgiving weekend (stuck hosting it this year) that I won't have time to really try this month anyhow.

tcinks: Thank you. You aren't the first person to say that you can start right away and hearing that from many people does make me feel better. So next month we will start TTC. The RN did say to at least wait til I see 1 period before we try and that is what we will do.

Tomorrow I go in for another blood test and then Dec 4th I go in for a pelvic exam to see how I am doing. Then we can ask the doctor any questions we want.

AFM: I just feel so tired...this weather isn't helping either. It is so bitter cold here. The high's these past few days have been in the 20's. Finally reached 30's today and this weekend it's supposed to reach 40's before dropping again. So sick of this weather which isn't helping my mood. Then to top it off my Bday is Friday. I have a feeling my siblings are going to plan something on Sat since my uncle is coming to town and since my parents are out of town. Don't get me wrong it's sweet of them but I am so NOT in the mood. I hate that my DH is working this weekend too. So now I have to go to the small gathering and put on a happy face for this weekend. Still glad I didn't tell anyone but part of me wishes they knew too, just so that I didn't have to pretend and fake my feelings around them.

I also hope and pray we see our BFP's and sweet LO's soon.


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9 years ago


Hi fellow future Mums!,

My husband and I were trying for our first in September, I tested and found out I was pregnant around the 24th October with a home pregnancy test, on the 28th October (when my AF would've been due) I had a HCG blood test done with the doc, next day he confirmed I was pregnant - 4 weeks, the following week, 2 days before my wedding when I was 5 weeks, I felt a strong pain in my cervix, so bad I had to sit down, then went to the bathroom & I started to bleed, heavily :(

Hospital confirmed with ultrasound I was in fact having a miscarriage. It's so disheartening especially when it's your first, I had already started to book scans in (as per my docs advice) and plan etc. The good thing is we know we can get pregnant and it happened within the first cycle.

My husband and I are ok now, we went on to have the wedding 2 days later and honeymoon in Bali which did us wonders. I've stopped blaming myself & realising it just wasn't the one. It all happened almost 3 weeks ago, my husband and I have just continued on with our normal lives & will try again right after my next AF whenever that shall be. My doc didn't give a certain time to wait to try again as my miscarriage took place on it's own and we are emotionally ok.

Good luck to you all as well, my thoughts and prayers are with all of us on this amazing topsy turvy journey. And one more thing, I've found meditating really helps, I've started doing it on a daily basis & have never felt better :)


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