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Girl ik what you mean to the full extent with being fed up with ttc. I had been trying for a year and 3 months with my husband and last month we finally did it found out a day after my birthday march14 that I was pregnant from the ER because I was having bad pain on my left side. To only find out that is was a possible ectopic. Then a high miscarriage and then I had gone to the ER on the 17th and had a ectopic pregnancy I was 7 weeks and 4 days and didn't even know It I took a test every month but some how missed it. I don't even know how honestly looking back i was sick I was tired and my feet tingled and my head would hurt on and off. This was my first pregnancy. And I think maybe I should just give up I guess I'm bot ment to be a mother. Which hurts more then anything and I would give up for about 2-3 days and would be back on here tracking my symptoms and trying to figure out when my AF would come ovulation dates and projected due dates. IV been pondering more and more here lately about just facing facts. Maybe I cant be a mom. The one thing I want most in this world and just simply can't have it. Everyone says well adoption... Well adoption maybe but I want to experience the pregnancy part that just seems unfair and skipping a part. I mean god love I have a step son and i am so thankful for him and he means the world to be. I just don't really have hope because everything is "perfect" down there expect missing my left tube now and before then everything was "perfect" as they said. Then why did it take me a year and three months to get pregnant at the age of 19?! Something is wrong with my body and some doctors don't care how much something like this could mean to a person. PS sorry for the rant lol

Ashtree - I am so very sorry for your loss. Maybe you need new dr's. Don't give up and don't let the negative infect your mind. Our bodies respond to what we are feeling and thinking - positive breeds positive. negative is infectious and harmful. I am truly sorry for your loss but that doesn't mean your next bean wont stick. It just means that you had to go through something to build up your heart.

I hope that you have some amazing support at home and that you find some piece with what happened.

Lots of hugs and love!!!

Shyann - have you looked online for herbal natural remedies? Do you know if your ovulating every month, ive just finished reading 'taking charge of your fertility' it's an amazing book! Such useful info etc. Also on youtube there's alot on fertility, and getting pregnant quickly! We tried for 4 months to get pregnant in 2013, then left it because I got a new job and then we got married, then in 2015 it took us 6 months to get pregnant, then took us 3 months to get preg again after the mc. So I'm going on 14 months ttc. It can get hard sometimes, after my second mc i wanted to give up as it was a really bad mc and ended up in hospital on a drip etc... just have to keep telling yourself that'll it'll be worth it is the end!

Korenelm - I live in the UK and the only doctors near me, other doctors will not accept patients outside the area range. Plus over here they do not consider 2 mc as a problem, only when you have a 3rd they'll run tests, if everything comes back fine, they'll send you to a fertility specialist (if your weight is ok).

Thanks for replying ladies x