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I hate to be the person to say this but.... if your boyfriend is "undecided" and pulling out... he doesn't want a baby right now. He may begrudging accept it if it somehow happens but those are not the expressed thoughts and seen actions of a man wanting a child anytime soon. Even if he acts somewhat excited at the thought that maybe, probably not but possibly you may be pregnant.

Also based off the symptom you're describing, you should probably see a doctor. And a dentist if you haven't in awhile. Bleeding gums are most likely gingivitis. The whole higher heart beat when resting thing could be that you're drinking too much caffeine. You could be too stressed out/excited about something in your life. Or you could be having a dysrhythmia. Sinus tachycardia would be the most likely but you could also be having PVC or something. It wouldn't hurt to have a doctor look into it if it continues. Especially if you have a history, or a family history, of heart problems.

There is approximately a 20% chance of conception each cycle with well timed intercourse. Even though, assuming you O'd the day you think you did, the intercourse would have been well timed he pulled out so...

Try not to symptom spot if you can help it because it's a real sanity killer in the TWW. Everything that happens symptom wise before you have enough hCG in your body to turn a HPT positive is due to progesterone. Progesterone is elevated after ovulation until around the time of AF at which point it decreases. Progesterone is responsible for all the PMS symptoms. So basically any symptom you experience before you can turn a HPT positive could just as likely be a symptom of PMS, unfortunately.

My best advice is to wait till your period would be late and if it still hasn't come you should take a pregnancy test. If the test is negative and still no AF you probably ovulated later than you thought and it's just a longer cycle. If no BFP or AF after 60 days from your last period you should contact your ob/gyn and have him/her look into what's going on.

Best of luck.

Thanks for all the advices. Mostly I agree with you.

It turned out I was pregnant but had a MC few days later. The reason why we use the pull out method is that I have a weak heart and my doctor said I have pretty small chances for delivering a baby. But since there is still a chance we countinue hoping. So we decided for a pull out method and are hoping for the best. That means that we believe that if something it's meant to be it will happen anyway. I just don't want to get pregnant every month and end with MC (or even die trying to deliver-even though that I'm aware of it and accepted that this could happen). And I'm very thankful for a boyfriend that supports me.

So we hope and pray for a miracle. We won't loose hope and will continue with what we agreed, and that is pull out method which is a first challenge for a miracle to happen.

I totally understand if that seems unreasonable or stupid to many of you but I'm a fighter and am sure that someday will await our miracle.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you.

I'm also sorry to hear about your heart. I had a good friend in nursing school with a similar situation. She and her husband desperately wanted children but she had some heart problems and just wasn't able to carry them to term. I know it was something that she never really got over being a sad about.

Hopefully you will have a better outcome and someday get your rainbow baby.

Wishing you all the best.

/creepy internet hugs

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I'm staying positive. The only thing that bothers me is that I can't be so happy when I see a BFP. First I want it so much and then I get scared which causes a lot of stress.

But I know that someday it will work out fine for all of us. You can't trick the mother nature. Only she knows the perfect timing and it's up to us to be patient.

Best wishes to all of you out there who are waiting for your miracle! Patience is a mother of wisdom ;)