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Do I tell, or do I wait?

Hello there! I found out less than a week ago that I, too, am also pregnant! By my calculation, I am due December 26th. Do you count 40 weeks from the first day of your cycle? That's what I did, anyway. I'll be having an ultrasound here in the next week or two. My husband and I have been trying for one year now. I've had a septate uterus resected and been put on many different hormones, two rounds of Clomid, one of them being monitored (which did the trick!!!!). I am 4.5 weeks along and still can't believe it's true. I know most people wait til 12ish weeks to announce their pregnancies but I am having to lie to all my family about my infertility treatments that I'm not actually going through anymore! They know my business since it's been taking so long/having surgery and they all realize how badly we've wanted a baby. They're all asking how things are going and I just want to tell them I'm PREGNANT!!! Anyways, my sister-in-laws baby showers are this coming weekend. I'll be 5 weeks along at that time. I don't see my family very often, especially my siblings since we all live hours apart. We'll all be at my parents in between showers, evenings this weekend. I soooo sooo sooo badly want to tell them all in person and this would be the best time to do it, BUT it's my sil's baby shower weekend. Is that a bad time to do it? I obviously wouldn't want to tell any extended family, just my immediate so there wouldn't be ANY talk of it at the actual showers. I would actually tell them after one of the showers (that night), and then there would be an afternoon shower the next day. My husband is totally against it and so was I, but I'm dreading lying to them and then telling them by phone or mail in a few weeks. So...what is your opinion...1: Is it too early to announce it to ONLY immediate family at 5 weeks? 2: Is it too rude to announce it this weekend when it's my sil's baby shower weekend? (I feel like, it is MY family, I can do what I want to do!!) P.S. My SIL is not the jealous type, she was able to get pregnant when she wanted to and I know she'd love to hear I'm pregnant, I just don't know if she'd love to hear it at that time...?

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