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First of all, congratulations!!!

I think he does just need some time for it to sink in. It is a big deal! Maybe he needs reminded that there's still 9 whole months to figure out how to do this Dad thing and no one figures it out immediately or perfectly. I think he's probably a little overwhelmed at what he doesn't know yet. It's a learning process :-) My DH immediately starts thinking of finances and figuring out how to support a family - I remind him he'll have the better part of a year to plan and he usually calms down pretty easily.

I understand how you feel. Yesterday evening I tested positive on my first and second clear blue pregnancy test, at 11 dpo. His first reaction was staring, a few sighs, a couple of moments of silence, and a mumble of "so what now". I take it he as him being in shock. As am I. So don't feel down. We have been together for less than half a year and my first child was born almost 15 years ago! However, we are happy. There's a lot of cuddling and holding going on right now. Lol. I wish you well.

men always take longer than women to adjust. Everything will be fine.

My partner and I have been together for a year, have both been wanting a baby (I'm 39 with a 14yo. He's 40 with no kids) so we've been ttc since Jan when we had an unplanned pregnancy end in MC. When I showed him the test last night, he said he didn't want to get too excited until we knew for sure but he was happy. He's now looking around the house and wanting to cram in all the remodeling we've been semi-seriously discussing into a 9 month period. He's also worried about finances, insurance, etc even though we've talked about all that before. He's a very practical person and I think he wants to make sure there are no issues and everything is planned out to the best of our ability.

I'm sure your guy will come around. Good luck!!!