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Sounds perfectly pleasant and most of us can understand, even relate to your feelings. However, once your special time does come, don't be surprised if your shower is dreadfully unattended. As women and human beings, we have to know that we will not always get what we truly desire in life, even if it's the only thing we want. Life just isn't fair. My brother and his wife have been trying for five and a half years. She's perfectly fertile but his childhood medical troubles have left him almost the complete opposite. They tried and failed their first round of IVF but she's my son's godmother and now we're trying for number two, which I'm hoping she'll love just as much. I'm terrified of the day I call her to let her know we're pregnant again. However, she says that all of our happiness and her friends' success, even if it breaks her heart, reminds her why she keeps trying. You don't have to go to every baby shower but, if it's someone close enough to you that you feel you should give such a personal, indepth explanation, perhaps you should just force yourself to go to show that you support them so they'll be there to support you when your turn comes. That's just my little opinion though.

To be honest, I'm not sending it to anyone. I was trying to get my thoughts down since I've been invited to 3 showers in the past month. Thanks for your opinion.

I know all about that, I keep a journal. Sometimes we feel so much at once we want to burst. I'm hoping you soon have your own reason to celebrate, just hang it there!

I truly do understand how painful it is to want something so deeply that it hurts and to struggle with these type of events. With that said, it is extremely important for me to participate in and celebrate the joy that my friends experience. Everyone is different and I do not judge you at all we all cope in different ways. If I was invited to a baby shower tomorrow it would be hard to go so I would choose a lovely gift, I would shop for the gift that I would most like to receive and just send it with a card saying how extremely happy that I am for my friend. That way I can contribute to her joy without adding any pain for myself.