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Hi Lupin30,

I'm sorry for your lost. I've never experienced a lost, though I've never been pregnant and current trying for #1. I pray I never experience a lost and I pray you never will again. My sister lost her first child when she was 7 1/2 months pregnant. My niece's heart stopped also. My sister had to give birth to her anyway, obviously because she was so far along. My niece was full grown at that point. She was over 6lbs and 19". It took my sister around 12 hours or so until she was delivered. A still born baby that we wouldn't get to know on this earth. I can't explain the horrific emotional pain we all felt but time heals. Since, my sister has had two beautiful healthy boys. You'll have your rainbow baby soon and until then, I pray God will show you mercy during your grieving period. God bless.

Achef128,

Your story touched me more than you know. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you, your family, and your sister went through. I am so happy she was able to have two healthy babies after such a devastating loss. Healthy babies are an incredible blessing. I truly appreciate your thoughts and prayers. I also pray that your TTC journey is smooth and that you have a healthy pregnancy.

Thank you. You'll be blessed beyond your biggest dreams and prayers. I know it for a fact.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I went into preterm labor with my first this past October. It was the most heartbreaking/ earth shattering thing I've ever experienced. The baby was perfectly fine, we saw his heart beating away a few hours earlier. But my body just couldn't keep him in. :( I've been through all the what ifs and blaming myself, but that won't give me my son back. And it won't get your child back either. Grieve however you need to, but please don't spend time blaming yourself. I don't know why these things happen, maybe one day we will get to meet the children we've lost.

I can tell you from my experience, and others I've talked to online...it's a pretty lonely place to be, having a miscarriage. Maybe in the beginning people will offer condolences, but there will also likely be a lot of insensitive comments. People who haven't gone through it don't realize the pain you go through. Your baby was most real to you and other people may not realize the loss. It helps to talk about it with others who've had similar experiences. Maybe there's a grief group in your area you can visit if you need to, or even just other women online.

I hope that you are able to heal quickly and conceive again (if that is your plan )

It may seem like a lonely path. I am sorry for your loss. I too have had a MC on May 27, 2013 at 13 weeks. I just recently gave birth to my son who was born still on February 20. I am still waiting for the results from the autopsy.
I can tell you from 1st hand that these losses are not due to any fault of our own. After losing my 2nd pregnancy at 13 weeks, i came to find out that I had/have hypothyroidism. That was most likely the reason I MC. What I suggest to you is to get a full blood workup and have everything checked out. I had to seek the help of an Infertility specialist after 12 months trying to conceive. We did after 2 iui ' s but after an HCG. I was put on synthroid which helped me hold this last pregnancy but in the end, something out of my control happened and I lost my beautiful son at 36 weeks.
Since we plan to try again soon, I was already told by my ob/Gyn I would be sent to a perinatologist who will keep a close eye on the next pregnancy. I have been told that after a loss, it is likely to go on and have a healthy newborn. Keep your head up and allow yourself to grieve but don't give up Hope. Blessings to you and have faith. Hope you have your rainbow baby.