Trying to Conceive Discussion Forum

Reply by AleeMe » Aug. 19, 2012 10:28am First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in June at 11 weeks. At 7 weeks I also had a heartbeat... So it came as a big shock. I took blamed myself (sometimes still do). Although I know it was nothing I had done, my mind plays tricks on me. It's about two months since my miscarriage. I still cry, I still ask why me... I still think it is unfair that people smoking, drinking, taking drugs got to keep that baby and I didn't. I hate feeling jealous about other people's happiness. I was so pleased when I found out I was pg and I praised God for the gift of being someone's mom, but know I feel angry, and not sure if Istill believe in Him. At the moment I am ttc again. I can't wait to be pg, but I know it will also going to be so scary until I have a baby in my arms. Report	AleeMe Posts: 9
Reply by paradisein2011 » Aug. 19, 2012 2:06pm Wow, I can totally understand what you are both saying. I have miscarried twice in the last 9 months. I had a chemical back in November and then got pregnant in March and miscarried at 6 weeks when I had just saw the heartbeat at 120 bpm but it was measuring a week behind in growth. I was devastated as can be expected by any mother that has been trying so so hard to get pregnant and then only to miscarry. It's one of the worst pains to go through mentally and physically. The emotions that it caused cannot even be explained but only women like yourselves can truly understand. My husband doesn't even understand. I get so jealous and upset with other women who can get pregnant so easy and they drink, smoke, drug and maybe even didn't want the baby but they can have a healthy full 9 months. My husbands son's gf is pregnant right now and she had an abortion with one a few months ago and it just tears me up inside and of course I'd like to tear her up but what can you do but just hope that our time comes and we get what we truly have been wanting! I am ttc again right now. I had a normal period come back finally in July and took clomid for this cycle but I'm not feeling very hopeful and then if I do get pregnant, I will live in fear constantly of losing another one! It's so scary!!!! Aleeme: I too have lost a lot of faith in God, I was so happy when I found out I was pregnant last and even prayed over and over and over to please help me not lose this baby but I feel like he didn't listen or maybe there just isn't a God! It did make me realize that you can't count on God to help with these matters. So, here I am trying to do for myself in the best way I can think is possible. I so hope the best for both of you and hope we get our bfps real soon!!!! Report	paradisein2011 Posts: 120
Reply by Littlar » Aug. 20, 2012 1:44pm I completely understand what you are going through I was suppose to be 10 weeks 3 days today and went in to a ultrasound. We last saw the baby at 8 weeks with a heartbeat of 174 today the baby still measured 8 weeks and no heartbeat. I am having a D&C tomorrow and I am just so frustrated with this. I had a blighted ovum in Feb and a Chemical Pregnancy last August. I atleast know from experience it will get easier but is difficult for the first few weeks. Report	Littlar Posts: 12
Reply by virtue05 » Aug. 20, 2012 4:41pm First off I am sorry for your losses and I can relate. Today is the first day back to work for me and I still feel extremely sad. I had my first U/S at 8wks and it was healthy and fine. I went in at 11wks to get a NT U/S done to find out that the baby had stopped growing soon after the first u/s. This was last tuesday and I had my d&C last Wed. It was extremely hard for us but all we can do is move forward and hope for the best the next time around. It's hard not to question yourself but I know it was for the best and just wasn't meant to be. I am positive that it will happen and I'm sure it will happen for all you as well. Report	virtue05 Posts: 25
Reply by el2011 » Aug. 20, 2012 6:14pm I am so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage in December, and ended up having to have a D&C in January because it never passed naturally. I know the natural tendency is to look for a cause and an explanation, but my ob/gyn told me that at that stage, there is nothing you can do to stop a m/c if it's going to happen. Usually, it means something went wrong at the cellular level and the baby just stops developing. No amount of healthy eating, living, resting or vitamins can prevent it from happening, unfortunately, and short of a traumatic injury to your uterus/stomach (a car accident, someone punches you, a terrible fall), there's nothing you did to cause it. I know it's a cliche, but it really does get easier with time. I'll never forget it but it doesn't quite sting as much to think about it the way it did at first. Like someone else said, all we can do is move forward and hope for the best next time. *good luck* Report BFP 11/2011; missed m/c 12/2012; D&C 1/2012. Surgery to remove fibroids 4/2012. Trying again 7/2012~ --------- I'm on a quest to live life as if every day were vacation. Follow my journey at http://summerandsundays.com	el2011 Posts: 167

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