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Hi ladies! A few of us who supported eachother in the tww leading up to Sept 5 wanted to continue the encouragement and support we felt at the end of Aug - beginning of Sept.

A few of us got a BFP (yay!) and a few of us are gearing up for POAS again (OPKs). Check in regularly so we can all celebrate the joys and support each other through the harder times.


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Dragonfly HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Sounds like you had a great day! I haven't been on a swing in years!

Gray - woo hoo for the countdown! I won't be ttc this month but will be right there with you in spirit (for the tww that is).

Elle - my sperm vial gets shipped right to my fertility clinic so they hold it for me until I'm ready to use it. Should be ovulating around my bday (or the anniversary of my dad's death - they're around the same time). Either way I'm hoping it will bring me luck!

Had a scotch tonight. First drink in a while. I needed it! Only thing I hate more than Mondays is Tuesdays! LOL Now gonna' watch a Gerry Butler movie and hopefully have a great sleep tonight!


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Oh Gray I know how you feel. I was pretty bummed to get a BFN too and it was only my first. I think because I spent a year waiting from the time I made up my mind to TTC to when I actually got to try for the first time, I was really hoping it would happen right away!

I've learned that although I wanted to have a lot of support through all this I will not be telling as many people next time around that I am going in to try again. I still believe in having lots of support for me as my mom lives far far away and I am single, but it was really hard for me to have so many people waiting and watching me through the tww.

In the beginning when I was feeling so many weird symptoms, some ppl were so quick to say that it was all in my head... then near the end when I was convinced AF was just around the corner the same people were telling me to think positive. It was frustrating for me. It's not their fault, but I wasn't getting what I needed when I needed it. You know?

Anyway, in October I will only tell 3 or 4 closest to me and I'll try not to test so early (I make no guarantees). I'm happy to have you all though. You understand and will give in to me when I need it most! Love you! xo


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jenny and gray - i think everyone ttc gets bummed with the bfn. how can you not? jenny, i was the same as you - it took me forever to get in the mindset to start trying, so now that i am it feels like it's been years! i actually bought 'what to expect when you're expecting' before my friend was pregnant... and her kid is 15 months now!

the first month hit the hardest for me, too. we had two days where HPTs were +, and then it went away. delayed AF by only about 5 days, but it was crushing. but that also got me thinking unrealistically about our chances the next month (i kept thinking, 'well, we almost did it in one month, i'm *sure* it will stick this time!').

i'm hoping i'm now in a 'sweet zone' where i'm over the irrational belief that i'll get pregnant right away but that it hasn't been too long that i'm wondering if there's a problem. heh. we'll see!


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12 years ago


My post is a bit off topic, but I'm feeling a bit emotional, and really want to share something with all of you.

Something that really strikes me about this group is that you all are some incredibly strong women. I know that we're all crossing our fingers and toes (and eyes as jennybobenny stated!) to actually get pregnant, but I think that it's worth remembering that the journey is showing us to be strong, resilient women. TTC can be a tough journey, and to handle it with grace takes a strong spirit, that all of you obviously possess.

Yes, sometimes it's hard and frustrating, and we may cry, scream, and ask "why." But, reading all of your posts makes me proud to be TTC alongside you ladies. I can't think of a group of women I'd rather talk to about cervical mucus and sore boobs!!! ;-)

I know that we're all in different places along our journeys, but I hope that we all find peace as we wait for our little miracle to finally come true. Of course, I also hope that we all get BFPs very soon -- as you said, Elizabeth, it might be a bit idealistic to hope that everyone gets their BFPs, but we can dream, can't we?? Here's to lots of happy surprises this month!

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hello again lovely ladies I hope you're all well, I'm just popping in to let you know that I'm now CD 40 and still no sign of I saw my DR yesterday who said if I'm getting on tests I'm not pregnant and my periods are probably just irregular after my M/C in May - oh he also said he wont be concerned until I go 12 weeks without a period

Frustrating but nevermind eh? I am dying for to just show up now so I can try for a little June bug but she's been really stubborn

Anyway

See you all tomorrow he he he


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12 years ago


Hi,
I too wanted to pop in on this follow up from the sept 5th topic.
I also want to commend everyone for their strength and resilience of hope in such a tumultuous emotional journey. It is hard to go from being so hopeful, to so certain, to so uncertain and so dissapointed, all to do it over again in the next cycle.
I find it inspiring just to read others stories of trying again the next month.

After 5 days of OPKs and a blood test, it looks like tomorrow is going to be my first IUI experience. They may change to fri depending on the ultrasound, but I am once again, feeling very hopeful and excited for the promise of tomorrow and will be keeping my legs crossed (and propped up in the air) for everyone on here.

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shojoji - best of luck with your first IUI. There's nothing to worry about. Mine didn't hurt at all. The worst part is the speculum which isn't any worse than a pap so... I'll send a little prayer your way. I hear laughter is great for conception as it gets the endorphins flowing. I recommend You Tube videos as the laughs can be neverending!

Ladies, your support means more to me than you can know. I have lurked and participated in other forums here and there, but never have I felt such instant connection with a group like I have here. BigV, your words were especially touching to me. Thank you for the love. If I didn't have so much happy estrogen running through my body right now I would have been a blubbering mess! LOL

Elle - I can't believe your doctor won't give you a blood test! Can't you tell him you want to be 100% sure you're not pregnant so you can go to the dentist or something? 12 weeks is a heck of a long time to wait just to find out maybe you've been pregnant the whole time! Holy crap! Sometimes, you have to listen to your own gut when it comes to your body and your health. And unfortunately, sometimes the best thing is to step up to your doctor and demand what you'd like even if it's out of character. True story - my dad died of colon cancer 7 years ago. When he was first diagnosed I went to my doctor and requested a colonoscopy. She said no. Said I was too young to worry (I was 30). Since my dad was 56 when diagnosed she said I didn't have to worry until I was 46. I stood my ground and demanded a screening anyway (politely demanded LOL). I was put on the bottom of the list and had to wait 3.5 years (my dad had since passed away). Guess what? They found a polyp. They removed it and looked at it under a microscope and it turns out, it was really close to being cancerous. The GI specialist said if I had gone one more year without a screening, that polyp would definitely have been cancer. At 34 years old, I would have still been 12 years away from my first colonoscopy according to my doctor... but I wouldn't have made it that long. Anyway, my point is... if you really want answers and you don't think your doctor has done all for you that you think he is capable of doing for you, ASK. Nicely of course, but say "I'd really feel better if you did a simple blood test that definitely rules out pregnancy. If the blood test is negative, then I will accept that and wait an appropriate time before exploring other possible reasons for a missed period. But I truly can't rest until I know 100% that I am not carrying a baby right now." Just my two cents. I just want you to have peace. I can't imagine being in your shoes right now.

AFM: I'm having a heck of a week at work. Very very busy right now. In a way it's good and I'm horrified to tell you that I had a fleeting moment today when I thought to myself "It's a blessing in a way that I'm not pregnant right now since I'm so stressed out with work at the moment. I can't imagine feeling tired and nauseaus and still having to deal with all of this stuff!" I don't really mean it of course, but I am hoping that all this chaos will pass in my professional life before I ttc again in Oct.

Sweet dreams everyone!


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Ladies any advice on OPK's!!! I am going tomorrow, i am thinking of the First Response 7 day kit, going from Saturday to Saturday or CD 10-20. Using the calculator on this site, it says my fertile days will probably be between Sunday and Thursday, so I'll just cover the whole week! lol Sound like a good plan?

Ohh BD every day or every other day?


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12 years ago


gray - i don't have too much advice on OPKs since i just bought some cheapies online (which, after one month of use, i'm undecided on). if i didn't care about the $, i'd go digital though. OPK's are harder to read than HPTs because you're not just looking for a line, you're looking for a line that's darker than the control. my problem was that my test line was dark, but thinner than the control. super annoying.

i'd BD every other day. personal preference. this month, we're trying every other day instead of trying to time things precisely. i'm trying to be less stressed about this ttc junk this month. there's enough stress at work, i don't need it with this, too!


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Yes Gray, it sounds like a good plan! LOL I don't know what the FR OPKs are like. Are they digital? In case of digital poas every day (mid day - same time) until you get your happy face. Then stop poas and save the money. Just BD every day after you get your smiley face until your temperature rises... and then one more for good measure. Before that, every second day is great. It allows the sperm to build up enough and it won't wear you both out if ovulation is delayed!

AFM: I've been using ic's for about 6 months now and combined that with a digital last month (my fertility clinic provides them for me). I have a few left over, so I may continue to use one when I "suspect" a surge from my ic's. I may start poas today too actually, since last month I O'd on cd13 (it's usually cd16-18). I'm not ttc this month, but I like to know just for knowing's sake!

GL to you!


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