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Posted by pilotbaby » Jul. 5, 2011 10:17pm

Hi everyone,
Is anyone else over 40 and ttc? I couldn't find any groups on this page and would love to start one if there is interest. I am 42 and have been ttc for 14 months. Very interested in hearing what others have tried and what your experiences have been.

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Reply by RJandJD » Jul. 6, 2011 7:46am

HI Pilot I am RJ i am 40 (turn 41 in december) been ttc for 16 months unexplained infertilty
I have 3 childrren from prev. marriage
My new dh (whomhas no kids) and i wanted to have one before we get to old

10 dpo today lots of cramps like is about to start , dip in temp yesterday...up this morning

Us over 40 will get our WE WILL

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Reply by ponycyndi » Jul. 6, 2011 9:03am

My mother had my youngest brother at 41. Good Luck ladies!

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Reply by pilotbaby » Jul. 6, 2011 10:22am

Hi RJ- Unexplained infertility must be frustrating. Given that you had three kids, I'm going to hope for you that your body gets back on track and you and your new dh have one soon! Have you tried any treatments? We have done one round of clomid, one IUI and one round of gonal shots. None of it worked but then a couple of months ago got pregnant on our own but it turned out to be a chemical pregnancy. I am 8dpo- the waiting game is so hard. I analyze every tiny feeling in my body!

THank you for the wishes ponycyndi!

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Reply by LittleBoogersMeme » Jul. 10, 2011 11:57am

Hi everyone,I'm 41 and DH is 49 and we are are trying for #4. Our oldest is 20, our 2nd boys just turned 15 and we had number 3 in Feb of 2010 one month before I turned 40. I nursed him till March of this year but my cycle had started back in June of 2010 so we had been trying for #4 sense then. I was only nursing part time as I couldn't produce enough for him and didn't realize that even though my cycle had started again nursing could effect my hormones to conception. I know, many would say that was a no brainer but it just didn't click, must be my age LOL! I know that I get tired of hearing the age thing from people and actually feel younger now in my 40's than I did in my 30's. I'm in better physical condiition and believe a lot of aging is mental. If I listen to the medical world that "time" crunch makes me nervous and I believe it's a hinderance. Most womens bodies where created to stop closer to 50 so i am always amazed why 40 is the "mark" that they want you te feel intimidated at. If i'd a listend, we wouldn't have had #3, I just can't imagine life without him!
I just wanted to say and to be able to encourage as well as been encouraged.
Good luck to all.

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Reply by RJandJD » Jul. 10, 2011 1:49pm

Thanks little boo , pony and pilot....you all give me hope

just showed up last night so over for this cycle

I go in to see dr. next "O" date of IUI. Little nervous about it, think my dh is more nervous

-Had tubes looked at....not sure what it was called, injected dye-like "stuff" in uterus and did ultra-sound to see if anything was ok...it was
-did semen analysis...ok there
-also did internal and external ultrasound, seen fibroid (but nothing major) some scarring on cervix from 3 previous c-sections....but nothing that would prevent us from conceiving
-now IUI coming up

sooo everything looks good, just have to wait to see if we can finally get a


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Reply by pilotbaby » Jul. 10, 2011 4:43pm

Hi RJ,
I had the same tests you did. So excited you are trying an IUI. Have you had one b/f? For me, the other tests they did were way more painful. The IUI only takes about one minute and the catheter they use is so tiny, you barely feel it. In fact, for me it was infinitely easier than a pap smear. Really hope it works for you.


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Reply by RJandJD » Jul. 10, 2011 7:37pm

No never had an iui done before! Hoping all goes well

question for you or anyone else......been taking soy for the last two cycles and before that vitex for cycles last winter......wondering which one i should take this cycle before my iui??? Also taking pre-natal vitamins, epo, and B6.
Seen a lot of women taking clomid before their iui- I just want to get a jump-start and an extra boost


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Reply by pilotbaby » Jul. 10, 2011 8:05pm

I have always done the pre natal vitamins...also did gonal shots for the cycle of the IUI. Not sure about any of the other supplements as my doctor did not recommend anything else for me.

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Reply by smartiemac » Jul. 14, 2011 2:12pm

hi everyone - I am new to this web site. I just got married in April and turned 40 in May. My dh is 35. Needless to say we haven't been trying very long but we are on an express train TTC now. AF showed up today so I'm starting a new cycle - haven't been very good at tracking yet...

I am going to my GYN this Tuesday for my annual and will hopefully get some more info from her on what's next.

Can you guys tell me what tests they did to check your fertility - are they invasive and do they hurt? I see someone mentioned checking the tubes with dye - ??? Sorry - but I'm really in the dark here...

thanks so much and I'm glad I found a group that are women my age!

Christie


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Reply by pilotbaby » Jul. 15, 2011 11:52am

Hi Smartiemac,
Welcome! I had a saline sonogram and a ultrasound (an internal one- can't remember exactly what it was called). For me, they were a bit less uncomfortable than a pap smear which I find painful. I have a lot of anxiety about internal exams so the doctor gave me some medicine to help me prior to the saline sonogram- not sure how much it helped but the procedure was not too bad. Have you started using OPK's yet? They are awesome and in my opinion a must have for those of us over 40 ttc! Good luck and keep us posted on what the doctor says!

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Reply by smartiemac » Jul. 15, 2011 12:32pm

Hi Thanks for the welcome! I am using OPKs but here's what the last 3 months have been like:

We just got married end of April but stopped using BC in late March...I tracked the first cycle with OPKs and got a smiley on the morning of CD12 & again evening of CD12, BUT DH was absolutely exhausted (he has a strenuous job) and we didn't dtd until 3 days later I didn't expect it would amount to anything...the next month we were on our honeymoon so no tracking took place, but neither did conception...The end of May I tracked again and got the smiley on CD12 again, but this time in the afternoon - and it was gone the next morning - dtd twice that week and nothing.

This latest cycle I was stupid...I figured that since the other two months were around CD12, I took 4 tests only (CD11 p.m., CD12 a.m. & p.m., & CD13 a.m.) NO SMILE. I should have tested beginning CD 10 through CD16 - just in case I went earlier or later. So I have no idea when I OV - we still dtd on CD12 anyway and again on CD15 but AF showed her face yesterday (on CD28, which is actually late for me - normally my cycle goes between 25-27).

I have already told him that we need to BD every other day this month during my fertile times no matter what...I think maybe we just haven't been doing it enough LOL. He's just so tired after work (especially when its hot & humid out) - he works outside most days...


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Reply by pilotbaby » Jul. 16, 2011 11:33am

Hi, If you have about 130. you don't mind investing, I highly recommend getting an ovulation monitor. I have the clear blue easy one. It gives you more days than just the one, for example it tells you which days you ovulate but also tells you the days surrounding it that you are more likely to conceive.
Good luck and

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Reply by efuabarimah » Feb. 4, 2012 11:54am

great to have found you. I'm 41 and ttc so I was looking for others in the same boat. I'm trying for my first child and this is my third cycle, I'm hoping 3rd timw will be the charm as they say. currently, I'm 8 dpo. cramping peaked on day 6 but is going down gradually..wishing you the best

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Reply by ellaboo » Feb. 10, 2012 9:50pm

Hi Ladies,

I am very new to this webiste & chatting online. But here's some good news for you!

My Husband & I were not going to have children, then at me 39yrs & him at 40yrs we thought we might regret it. So I went off the pill two weeks later & to our surprise & delight fell pregnant 1st cycle round. Sadly our Baby Oliver died at birth (36wks). He had contracted eColi while still in the placenta which apparenty which is very rare 1 in a million. Then to our surprise again I fell pregnant just 6 wks later, I gave birth to Darian 1 week after turning 41yrs old.

Now here I am again desperate to have another child at 43yrs old. I'm now 11DPO have all the same symptoms that I did with my boys! Not sure if it is in my head or not so fingers crossed.

It's very scary reading all the DOWN sides to trying to conceive at 40+ but I say DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!

I had a friend tell me a few tricks to help us conceive if your interested let me know..

Good Luck ladies will keep your posted on my journey.

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Reply by airiesing » Feb. 14, 2012 7:42pm

Hey there ladies, mind if I join you?? I'm 41 (will be 42 in May) DH is 42....we've conceived 2x in the past year, in July when we were actively trying, mc'd at 9.5 weeks and this past month which ended this past week in a chemical.

We had said we weren't going to try again after the 1st mc (this would be our 2nd, we have our DD who will be 3 in May as well) but the chemical has re-sparked our desire to have another.

Medical intervention isn't in the financial cards for us so, if it happens again, it's au-naturale! I am on prenatals & some otc herbals and I put the DH on zinc along w/ his multi. Those w/ preseed & softcups are our arsenal!!! (and a lot o' prayer)

Glad to be w/ you ladies, most of our family is less than supportive due to our age so we're keeping it quiet and I can use all the support I can get! (Mostly because the DH gets sick of talking about it!!)

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Me: almost 42 (May)
DH: 42
DD: soon to be 3 (also May!) Honeymoon baby conceived at 38, born at 39
08/11 mc 9.5 weeks. Lost heartbeat, growth stopped 7.5 weeks d&c 11weeks
02/12 chemical pg 4 weeks + 4 (surprise pg)
04/12 BFP!! EDD 12/09/12 PLEASE GOD! PRAISE GOD!!
My cocktail:prenatal baby aspirin EPO cd1-O B-100 maca, vitex green tea
Now: Prometrium 100mg, by mouth, 2x a day





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Reply by rcb319 » Feb. 21, 2012 5:15pm

I will be 40 next month...Married last May and TTC since then. Taking Chlomid for the first time this month...fingers crossed! Best to you all. :)



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Reply by ellaboo » Feb. 21, 2012 5:24pm

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately were were not preg last month, but not giving up hope. I went to see my Dr & she has done a blood test called AHM to determine my ovirian reserve!
If you just google AHM fertility blood test there is lots of info you can read up on.

My results will be back next week so will keep you posted. But at least I will know my what my Odds are of falling pregnant & if we should keep trying or be grateful for the ONE BIG HEALTHY Boy we have..

Good luck everyone

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Reply by merewynne » Mar. 31, 2012 10:33am

Hi Ladies,

I'm turning 40 next month, never had children, and my husband (who has 2 kids from a previous marriage) was deployed to Afghanistan the week after I had an ectopic, making this experience gut-wrenching. TTC through Skype is also a little difficult ;)

I wish there were a 40+ forum on this site... you all have many things to share and I will need some serious support when he's back in mid-June.

to all of you!!!

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Reply by ellaboo » Mar. 31, 2012 4:45pm

Don't dispare there is hope! I conceived two bubba's at 39 & 40. I'm now 43 1/2 & trying for number 3. You can get your egg reserve tested by doing a simple blood test called AMH.. I highly recommened that you get yourself a really good OBGYN that can help you with support ect. Mine told me that it's not a problem to get me pregnant that is the easy part. The hard part is to deliver a healthy baby. Take care wsihing you lots of

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Reply by merewynne » Apr. 1, 2012 4:47pm

Thanks ellaboo!
It is encouraging to hear stories like yours. And you're right... it wasn't a problem for me to get pregnant, but the little bugger just didn't make it to the right place. I guess he inherited his navigation skills from his dad ;)

I have an awesome OBGYN and I see him in May for the post-ectopic hystero-thingy, as well as my 40s fertility examination. I will ask him for the AMH as well. Great suggestion!

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