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Q: Friends babies. Any advice?

In the time that hubby and I have been TTC, friends of ours have also announced their pregnancies. I am so happy for them and hope that my turn will come soon too.

One of our friends has not only announced her pregnancy, but had a little girl and has just announced she is 19 weeks with her second.

I am truly happy for them, but jealousy is rearing its ugly head here, when will it be my turn?

Does anyone have any advice on dealing with situations like this?

This question was asked Dec. 7, 2011 8:40pm
Category: Getting Ready - Emotionally

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Answered by sunshinebear711 - Jan. 12, 2012 6:56pm
I know how you feel. Ever since we started ttc 5 months ago, 5 other couples have announced their pregnancies and one has had her little girl.

I am so very jealous and it hurts so much every time I see an update that someone is expecting. I try so very hard to be excited... but honestly it is just getting to the point where I don't want to hear it. The one that just had the baby (it was an "oops!" baby) knows how much I want a little one and when she found out she was pregnant she told me that she didn't want me to hate her because of it. How could I? I'm very happy she finally has her little girl after 2 boys... but I am jealous.

I also talked to my mom about it (she doesn't know we are ttc, no one does) and she said that when she was trying to get pregnant this was happening to her all the time... and then when she did get pregnant she was the only one so everyone was excited for her. I don't know how I feel about that... but...

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Answered by iwantanothergirl - Dec. 13, 2011 12:28pm
i totally understand im married yes i have kids and yes we are stable but i want another girl so my daughter can have a sister and not have to play with her brothers all the time. One of my family members is on her sixth child so unstable struggling hard and keep having kids what pisses me off is everybody is pregnant and unstable its crazy but i am trying not to be angry but when people keep asking you are you pregnant everytime i bloat im going to scream. lots of sticky baby dust to us all GOD BLESS

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Answered by RacheyJ - Dec. 8, 2011 1:34pm
I feel you (all) definitely.... I have three cousins currently having babies (actually one was born last Fri, another being born tomorrow and one in January) and one of my bff's just announced she is expecting too!!! Its so not fair!!!! I don't understand when some people get pregnant in the worst of situations and someone who has a stable environment it is so difficult for....frustrates me to no end.... all I do is sit back and try to understand that I have no control over it and just hope it will be my time soon. Good luck ladies...I hope we all get a BFP this month!!!

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Answered by katiemay88 - Dec. 8, 2011 7:41am
Hey ladies I'm in the same boat. Since we've started 3 of our friends have become pregnant, 2 have already had them, and the last one is due soon. All of them were complete surprises of course not even trying. My one friend I am truly happy for, they have a house and both have really good jobs and are doing great. The other two though drive me crazy. Neither are in stable relationships, stable jobs or stable living conditions. I honestly think and kind of know a bit that there was a bit of intentional not taking birth control and not letting the partner know, which really drives me crazy! I'm married (I honestly have nothing against people who are not married and have a baby, as long as you're in a stable, loving relationship and aren't having a baby just because you think it will make things better), we own our own home, both work full time, and yet it just will not happen! So I totally understand how you feel and I think it is completely normal.

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Answered by tissuepaperpet - Dec. 7, 2011 9:46pm
My friend does the same thing on FB. She found out that she's pregnant with her fourth child. All she ever posts is about the baby and how she wants to give birth, hospitals and doctors, and whatnot. I want to be happy for her but.. Well, it is her fourth child. Hard to be thrilled after that many times around. Plus, I just want one.. Why can't I have just one?
She may invite me to her shower. I.. don't think I'll be going. Can't handle that.

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Answered by a member - Dec. 7, 2011 9:00pm
I just recently went through the same situation. A friend of mine is pregnant again and constantly talking about it. She announced it to everyone the day she found out from her doctor. It was really hard for me at first since she is constantly asking me when I will be following. The only thing that really helped me was taking some time away from the situation. It still bugs me that she constantly posts on FB, but I'm starting to get over the jealousy. I don't know that there is anything to help you feel better immidiatley, but you will get there. Good luck.

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