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Yes, I agree it is true. However, when I stopped thinking about it, and obsessing over it; it happened. So, it does work for some people. Are you taking any fertility meds? Are you still the only person doing the arousal to make the bedroom more fun? If your the only person doing all the work of course it's not going to happen as it takes two and your fiance should recogonize that.

I get so mad when people say that to me... I do know that it happens for some when they give up or relax, but it is very insensitive. Why can't they just say, " well , you are trying really hard and something is bound to happen soon... just don't beat yourself up about it". Or at least a simple " I am praying for you ". I admit that there have been times when I almost drove myself crazy, but I have learned to just go with the flow and it will happen at some point.. but that doesn't mean I have quit trying... and it doesn't mean that I don't get sad every time I see another BFN. But it still pisses me off when people say " if you quit getting stressed out about it then it will happen". oh, okay... so all this work and charting is useless? All I have to do is nothing??? LOL my brain doesn't work that way :( But I have learned to not obsess as much... key work being " as much"

That has to be the most infuriating thing anyone has ever said to me when they knew we were trying. It was my SIL's favourite phrase, like thanks I hadn't thought about that! After 2 years and 3 losses, it's incredibly hard not to at least be worried at the end of each month. Someone actually told me I needed to drink more, couldn't believe it. I did get my bitchy revenge on SIL though, I knew she was fed up with 8 weeks to go with her 2nd (not planned), and when I saw her I said "my god, you're massive! you look like you could pop! Childish, I know, but it made me feel better :-)