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Omg, it's like I wrote this! My MIL has been a thorn in my side for the last 20yrs...I swear that witch will outlive us all! When we found out about #1, we waited til 12wks to tell her, her reply, "u need to get an abortion! Ur not married, u don't own a house, u need to get rid of this baby...". Of course we didn't listen to her. We told her at 12wks about #2 (13yrs apart). She annoyed me with all her advice on how to be pregnant and how to take care of a baby...cuz u know, I didn't already have one, smfh! With #3, we held off telling her til I was 26wks. Lmao! She was livid that I waited so long...lol I loved it! I did 2/3 of my pregnancy w/o advice. If I have a 4th, I will go even longer if I can hide it.
U are not obligated to tell her anything...a-n-y-t-h-i-n-g!! Try not to view her hate as a bad thing, do what I do and play with it. It'll bother her more than her words will bother u...it's actually kinda fun. I live to torture that woman with the fact that I'm still h

*here. She has spent yrs trying to pull us apart and all she accomplished was putting a wedge between her and her son. It also pisses her off that I won't let her do what she wants with MY kids. She hates having to ask to hold the baby or ask if she can do something with one of them. It's awesome! Seriously, use it to ur advantage!!

Good luck! It doesn't have to be as miserable as she's trying to make it. She's only trying to get her way....don't let her, it's ur lives, she lived hers!! =))

I think if they could have married their sons and had a child with them they would, honestly. She let it slip once in an argument that a mother always looses a son, but the other mother gains a son. she is petrified to loose him but that is what will happen if she doesn't stop. It has become so bad that she refuses to even speak to him on the phone unless I am not there. she is mad. I have blocked her on all possible platforms, including phone calls. the last msg I got said that I must stop contacting HER son, and only the devil would break up a family. I will remind her of that when she tries to break up a family in the future ( US with our baby)

shame, he is even scared to tell her because he knows she will go ballistic.
anyhoo its good to know I'm not alone here...
what is she like towards you when she sees you? and towards the kids?

It's very cold in our house when she comes over. I stay civil (becuz my husband bribes me to be nice, with shopping trips lol) but u can definitely feel who doesn't like eachother in the room. We barely speak 10 words. I give one word replies and never bother to even look at her. Hearing her voice literally makes my blood boil...but I try to stay the bigger person. She's very passive aggressive and sneaky. It always backfires tho. And becuz of it, we now only see her every cpl months...basically when she invites herself. We live 4hrs away and haven't mad an effort to drive to see her in 13yrs. That's not me either, hubs just can't be bothered. He doesn't like her...ahead embarrasses him.
As for the kids, the girl is the fave. She had 3 boys so my boys aren't as important as my girl.
Honestly, u don't need this stress or negativity, if u don't want to tell her, don't. It's ur pregnancy and ur baby, u call the shots now, mama!!

Thanks Dakota, I wouldn't tell her at all if it were possible hahaha unfortunately she has sisters and other family that we see. dammit.

all the best and thanks again xx