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5 weeks too soon to tell close family?

I am currently 4 weeks pregnant with my first & called the doctor to schedule my first appointment. The doctor won't see me until 11 weeks (boo) and I have blood work with a nurse at 9 weeks. I don't think I can wait that long to tell my family! I work for the family business so I see my parents everyday. I want to tell them on my birthday which I will be 5 weeks, almost 6. Is this too soon? Also, is there any way to tell if things are going okay until that 11 week mark? Seems crazy not to see a Dr till then! Thanks!

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Go ahead and tell! (10 votes)
Too soon (1 votes)

8 Answers • 7 years ago


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It's never too early to tell. Some people like to wait in case of miscarriage. But I've never believed that. I want close family and friends to know right away. That way if anything happens, they will be there to be supportive though it. So I say "Go for it!".

As for the rest, not being seen until around 11 weeks isn't unusual. It's usually between 8-12 weeks for your first visit. There is nothing they could do to help prevent any problems at that point, and if there is an early miscarriage, it will happen before then. Not the best reason to wait, but it makes sense financially.

Also, there is no way to tell that things are going well before then. Basically, as long as you don't start bleeding, things are going as well as they can. But even if you do start bleeding, it doesn't mean you are miscarrying. But do call your doctor and have things checked out.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

7 years ago


Thank you so much Wendy! You helped put my mind at ease. I'm so excited to share the news with close family & friends, there's just that voice in me that made me doubt myself. I definitely don't want to live in fear or hide it. Thanks again!

7 years ago • Post starter


I can totally relate. I am 4 weeks today and dying to tell my mom. Just don't think I can keep a secret from her but also want to share my excitement.

I agree with the first poster and I can speak from experience. You probably don't want to rush out and tell everyone but your family and close friends go for it, especially if you work with them everyday. A couple years ago I had a miscarriage and did tell my family and close friends. I had to have a D&C after which is an outpatient surgery. I think it would have been harder to go through that alone and try hiding that and you want people to understand why you are down after. Sorry for that negativity but like I said I am in the same boat now. GO FOR IT and CONGRATS

7 years ago


I can totally relate. I am 4 weeks today and dying to tell my mom. Just don't think I can keep a secret from her but also want to share my excitement.

I agree with the first poster and I can speak from experience. You probably don't want to rush out and tell everyone but your family and close friends go for it, especially if you work with them everyday. A couple years ago I had a miscarriage and did tell my family and close friends. I had to have a D&C after which is an outpatient surgery. I think it would have been harder to go through that alone and try hiding that and you want people to understand why you are down after. Sorry for that negativity but like I said I am in the same boat now. GO FOR IT and CONGRATS

7 years ago


Thank you! That makes total sense too. I want to tell anyone who I would also want support from if heaven forbid, anything bad happened. Thank you & congrats on your lil peanut!!

7 years ago • Post starter


Thank you! That makes total sense too. I want to tell anyone who I would also want support from if heaven forbid, anything bad happened. Thank you & congrats on your lil peanut!!

7 years ago • Post starter


With my first, I told my mom right away and my BFF (and of course, bf). We told everyone else at 12wks. With my second, I told everyone on here, and my BFF (and hubs, obvs). My mom had passed at that point. We didn't tell the inlaws til 12wks. With my third, I told everyone on here, and my BFF. We told the inlaws at 26wks...only cuz I couldn't hide it anymore. I told only those I wanted by my side should anything go wrong. I've had losses before and it's hard enough telling a BFF or DH, I can't imagine telling everyone else too. That's just me tho. I don't like ppl to feel bad for me, so I tend to keep a lot private. Do what works best for u. There is no right or wrong.
H&H9! =))


7 years ago


Thank you Dakota! I'm learning I have to just have to do what feels right for us. Thanks for your input!

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