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When to tell immediate family the good news ?

I am really not sure when to tell our immediate family that we are having our second child. I just found out a few days ago and had blood work this morning won't find out the news till Wednesday but I'm sure it will just tell me the same as the HPT. Anyways would really love to know what all of you think ! Thanks

And when I mean immediate family I mean like our parents

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After wednesday when confirmed with blood work (4 votes)
8 weeks (2 votes)
12 weeks (7 votes)

8 Answers • 7 years ago


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:) Congratulations on your good news!!! I hope everything goes well with your bloods! :)

I know 12 weeks seems like a long wait but I tend to ere on the side of caution as dh and I told immediate family a little too soon on our first time round and I ended up having a mc at 7 weeks!.....I don't mean to sound negative what so ever but I think its definitely worth waiting...making sure all bloods and ultrasounds look healthy before breaking the good news!!
Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy!! :) xx

7 years ago


Thanks KatieS86 all the feedback is greatly appreciated it's so hard to hold back from them since we are very close and see each other a few times a week but what you said really got me thinking to hold back on telling them for a while

7 years ago • Post starter


No worries Elisa1990!..... I don't mean to be all doom and gloom! lol I know how exciting it all is! We too are really close with dh's family....in fact they live about a block away and we see them regularly...so not only trying to hold back...but trying to hide why your not drinking or eating certain things when you go over for visits can be a total nightmare... but although the wait is hard...I think you will feel a lot safer and more confident in telling them the good news once you know yourself that your past that first 3 months! :)

7 years ago


That is so true thanks for your advice :)

7 years ago • Post starter


I told my mom a few minutes after the shock wore off. This is going back 16yrs, so I was young and scared/excited. I held off telling others, except my BFF, until I was past 12wks. The reason I told my mom and BFF, was becuz they were the 2 ppl I would want by my side should anything go wrong (besides my boyfriend, obvs). With baby #2 we waited til 12wks to tell everyone (my parents had passed by this time). With baby #3 we waited til 26wks...lol yup, 26wks, becuz I hate my inlaws and didn't wanna be bothered with annoying calls/visits and unwanted "advice". We will likely do the same with our next, if we have another.
Tell the ones u want by ur side if things go wrong. The last thing u need is to tell the same sad story over and over if things don't go right. Mc is hard enough w/o having to relive it every time someone asks what happened.
Congrats! =))


7 years ago


The thing is I am extremely close with my in laws and will be very hard to keep this a secret with family events coming up this weekend. My mother in law and I tell each other everything I feel like I'm lieing by not telling them until 12 weeks but I understand why I should hold off

7 years ago • Post starter


Like the others (esp dakotagirrl and Katie): I would only tell early to those who I also will want to be beside me if something goes wrong. Like Katie, I told early the first time and then was in pain to have to tell everyone I had lost it. This time only my husband and my bff knew early on. I did tell at work now at 14 weeks though because it shows ;). I will probably only tell my mom this time once the baby is there, we are not that close, and I would find it stressful to have to "report" too often.

7 years ago


If u and ur MIL are close, then tell her. U can tell whomever u want, it's completely ur decision. If u don't want a lot of ppl knowing, then just explain ur reasoning to her, I'm sure she'd understand...she was pregnant at one point, also. Do what ur comfortable with...everyone needs someone to talk to! =))


7 years ago


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