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The absolute best way to ensure you have your "guys" waiting for the egg is to try and have sex every 2-3 days...That way, regardless of when you ovulate...youre covered:) Other than that, try to keep it relaxed and enjoy making love...not just baby:).....I know how frustrating it can be to see people pop up pregnant everywhere and after trying for 1 month, but just remember...this is not the norm. You have about a 20% chance of conceiving every month. Good Luck and baby dust:)

Thank you 3boyz! That's what I keep trying to tell myself. My other two babes were conceived within the first two months so it's hard having the patience and not thinking "what if something is wrong". We BDed a lot the last two cycles during THE time, I think I want to take it easier this time and try not to be so pressured about it.
There were a lot of announcements amongst my friends this Thanksgiving and I so badly want that to be me! Just gotta remember that it will happen when it's supposed to.
Thanks again for the response, it helps so much to hear from other people and know that it not happening right away doesn't mean anything.

I know exactly how you feel. My first two I didn't "try" and it only took me 3 months to conceive when I did try, but each month was agonizing. I truly felt for those who try for years. My husband and I tried for 5 months before I conceived last time, but unfortunately it ended in miscarriage at 10wks. I was devastated. I lost baby Aug 8th and got my next period Sept. 24...I wanted to try again right away but wanted to have 2 periods so I had an idea of how long my cycle was, but my period never came. I was discouraged because I had no clue when I was going to ovulate, or when my fertile period was....long story short...Nov. 10 I got my BFP. I have no idea when I ovulated or conceived, but I think the fact that I was not "trying" that month took all the pressure off. Like I said before...just make sure to cover all your bases (every 2-3 days) and I am sure your BFP will come:) Good luck and Baby Dust

That's amazing! Congrats on your BFP, I would love to have a surprise like that! I am such a control freak I struggle with just letting it happen, I like being as prepared as possible. Charting helps me to know what is happening before I really know what's happening if that makes sense, but on the other hand it sometimes causes more stress. I just gotta focus on going with the flow and what will be, will be. But your right, even when it takes only a few months it's the longest months ever.
Thank you again for your comforting words, they help! My temp has dropped the last 4 days so just waiting to start AF and hopefully have a lucky cycle. :)