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Unless you are bleeding/miscarrying you dont feel symptoms all the time.

You deserve a lot better, let him have that woman, you need to focus on what is most important and that is you and your baby. Pregnancy hormones are the worst as well but I say let it all our, cry until you can cry no more.

You are past the most risky stage. Most likely you are just adding worry to your heart break. Do what you feel is best for you- no matter what that is.

I'm so sorry. That sounds just awful. Like the others have said, unless you are experiencing bleeding/active miscarriage it's more than likely that your baby is fine. Most pregnancies can withstand quite a bit of stress. My pregnancy with my son (now 3) was the most stressful period of my life and he is healthy and strong and life is wonderful now. You'll get through this.

I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this during what all suppose to be the happiest times. It's easier said than done, but don't stress. You're so much better than him if he's doing this to you. Focus on what's important right now and that's your health and your precious little one. You'll get thru this, I promise xoxo and I agree, let it all out. Cry a million times a day if you must, and then treat yourself to a big bowl of ice cream :) or whatever you're craving! Hang in there, love!

Your man is a jerk....Im sorry that has happened to you. Unfortunately sometimes extremely high levels of stress can affect a pregnancy. As hard as it is, try and just concentrate on you and baby....if he is not good for you right now, he is not good for baby. I faced a similar situation with my second child although he did not know I was pregnant, I found out he was cheating on me and after kicking him to the curb...found out I was pregnant. That happening to me, allowed me to meet my husband of 10 yrs now. While I carried and delivered my baby by myself I met my husband 3 months after I had him....10 years later, we have had a child, he has adopted my other son, and I am pregnant now:)....There is light at the end of the tunnel. Please keep in touch if you need support, as I am also about 7wks.

Please update if possible...there is no judgment here.

He says he wants to work on our marriage after I asked for a separation when he told me she had his heart and he was in love with her. Then, he told me he was only going to be friends with her and that he wasn't going to stop talking to her because he didn't want to hurt her. Nevermind me. We have counseling on the 1st after I begged and begged.

Like I said, I am not here to judge you, and understand how tough it would be to think about starting over after 10yrs and while pregnant....but it can be done if that is where it ends up. The one thing I will say is that all communication with her should be cut off because a marriage doesnt work with 3 people....her feelings are irrelevant in your marriage, however, I am sure your counselor will suggest the same thing. If you do not know her, and she did not know you were married, remember that she has been deceived too. That being said, if she now knows and does not go away...it explains that married men are not off her radar. Stay strong and just remember that little one inside is counting on you. Feel free to pm me if you would like....I have been in your shoes and lived to tell the story:)

Oh, she's married with two children and has known all along he's married with two children and one on the way.

That is horrible, well she is just as bad as he is, but hes your problem...not her. Does her husband know? I would be sure he does not get stuck living a lie like you did. Pm me when you can. I have been in a very similar situation but would rather not put it out here. I am not going to sit here and tell you to leave your husband...I know its not that cut and dry. Try to take the high road when possible. Good Luck....TTYS