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I don't have kids, but most of my friends with kids seem to wait until their kid is 1 year old to try for another. I think it's a very personal question and what you feel is right to do. Good luck!

I say get it over with, I have 5 children and they are all 2-3 years apart. It was not easy but I'm glad I had them when I did. My youngest is now 8 years old and call me crazy but I'm trying for 1 more lol. Good luck to you TTC!????

I've have 4 kids first two 2 1/2 years apart that was a good period between. I had my third 11 years later that was like having a baby all over again :-P then 13 months later I gave birth to my fourth (total surprise) my 3rd and 4th were premature having 2 preemies so close together was really hard work. I think trying for another once baby is a year old is a good plan. You never know how long it will take to get pregnant again. Being pregnant two years in a row having 3 kids (one under a year) and working was hard. I think ideally it's nice to see your kids have things in common and play together like friends. Sometimes my older two are just that little bit less close at times due to the age gap. My two little ones are only 2 and 10 months but they're already starting to enjoy each others company I can see them being good friends and close (hopefully). I'm glad my 2 year old has a playmate even if it was unplanned. Hope that helps?

Thanks for the great responses so far! I told my husband that I'd like to wait til our son is closer to 18 months before we conceive again, just because I'm convinced this pregnancy and early childhood can't possibly be as easy as our first was. I can't handle just beginning baby C's likely difficult 2 year old phase AND a probably more screamy newborn. Especially since my husband works nights and probably won't be home as much as he was the first time round.
If it happens before then, I'll deal, but I plan to avoid sex in the few days around when I expect to ovulate, just to hedge my bets. And hopefully it won't take the year and then some to conceive like it did the first time!

I had a baby "oops" who was born before my first son was walking. They're 13 months apart. It was tough, but now at ages 3 and 4, they're best friends. I learned pretty quickly that newborns don't demand every second of your attention (which is what I believed with my first baby). That being said, I could take care of my older child's needs fairly easily. As my baby required more and more attention, my older son grew more and more independent. Bi think it's an adjustment regardless of the age difference. My husband and I currently can't agree on the timing of a Baby 3, as I want to get pregnant, and he wants to wait. Personally, I'd rather have my children closer in age, so they all "fly the coop" relatively close together, and my husband and I can have longer to enjoy the "empty nest" phase of our marriage.