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I'm so sorry for your loss. Your childs life was precious and just because miscarriage is "common" doesn't make it any less devestating. Take time for yourself to mourn the loss, and if your ready, keep trying. Do what feels right to you.

It is absolutely devastating when a miscarriage occurs but as hard as it is you have to think that this wasn't right this time. There may have been something wrong with the foetus and that is why you miscarried, it isn't anything that you have done wrong. My advice to you is to take a cycle or two to mourn your loss and relax, maybe take a holiday or short break then start charting your cycles and get back on that baby horse. I wish you all the luck.

I found that talking to other ladies who had been through miscarriage helped me. I went through 3 myself. It seemed like the women who had the "oh it's so common" or "at least you know you can get pregnant" comments had never actually been through it and could never understand. It doesn't feel common when it happens to you! When you see that positive pregnancy test you immediately start envisioning your baby, who they might be, what they might look like, how your life will change, etc and to have all that yanked away suddenly and realize that you will never meet that baby or find out who they will be is devastating. There is a grieving process, both for the baby and for the dreams. Other than talking with other ladies, I started yoga, which helped me relax, and talked to a counselor who specialized in infertility and pregnancy loss. Also I had a bracelet made with 2 butterflies (I hadn't had my 3rd miscarriage yet) to symbolize my babies so I could carry a reminder

Thank you so much ladies for your kind words. It was very helpful, actually joining this site in itself has been a very positive event. x

Hi I'm sorry for your loss. It's very had for other people to understand what you are going threw. It happened to me 3 times in a row and it broke my heart so much. I just kept crying all the time and I Was so physically and emotionally drained I just didn't know what to do or who to turn to. But you have got to keep positive and keep you chin up and things will get better as it eventually did for me xx