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Wow, I feel for you and that situation. First of all, congratulations!!! That is very exciting for and your husband!! All in all, you can't avoid sharing your news with her, and it is really up to her how she chooses to handle it. Of course it will sting, but unfortunately, you cannot control how mother nature works. I would just try to be delicate and understanding if she does become upset. Validate her emotions, and support her in her struggle. I have a friend who became pregnant and told her BEST friend (who has been trying to get pregnant for YEARS) and her best friend cut her off completely and will not talk to her anymore, and the baby is now a year old. This is a worst case scenario, obviously, but just goes to show that the ultimate decision is up to your good friend.

Hi, congratulations! Great news! Yes, I can totally understand how hard it will be to tell her and it is great that you are sensitive enough to understand that it will not be easy for her. Firstly I don't think you need to mention to her that it happened on the first try, that is irrelevant and also would be like rubbing salt on her wounds. Also once you have told her and she has accepted it. Please continue to be sensitive, for example if you have morning sickness or any other pregnancy related discomfort don't keep talking to her about it and cribbing. Mentioning it once is fine, but only talking about that is annoying. And definitely don't say insensitive things like, 'you wouldn't understand as you aren't pregnant!' I actually had a close friend tell me that, and I found it extremely hurtful. But forgave her thinking she was not thinking when she said that with all the pregnancy hormones etc. Anyway Goodluck and god bless!

So I told my friend and she was beyond excited. She did say, wow, you're lucky, but I'm so flipping excited for you!