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How do I tell my best friend (who's ttc for 2 yrs) that I'm pregnant?

I was shocked and so thrilled to see a plus sign on the htp this morning! Thank the Lord! However, I can't help feel a little guilty. My best friend has been ttc for almost 2 years, and has found out she has hypothyroidism and pcos in the process. They have tried fertility drugs as well to no avail. So now I don't know how to tell her we are pregnant. I know she will be happy and a little hurt. Is there any way I can make this easier on her? Thanks for your help!

5 Answers • 8 years ago


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Congratulations! Secondly, kudos for being sensitive to your friend's feelings. A lot of people wouldn't be. I do not think there is an easy way to break the news. Just be honest and forthright and what will be will be.

8 years ago


Pick a good moment to talk to your friend. There is really no easy way to deliver the good news in such a situation. Wishing you wisdom.

8 years ago


I love that you are so aware of your friend's feelings in this. If it were me in her shoes, I would appreciate you acknowledging that it will be difficult for me to navigate the way I feel and difficult for you to always be sensitive to what she's going through. My best advice would be to ask her how involved she wants to be (does she want to know names y'all are discussing, nursery theme ideas, does she want to be sent any u/s or baby bump images that you may share with friends and family...stuff like that). Assure her there is no wrong answer and that you only want to do right by her. If she'd rather be more stand offish, consider making an album that she can't see on FB (if that applies) for sharing those things. And I'd refrain from sharing any pregnancy woes/complaints. My friend and I were expecting together, but I lost mine. It was an arrow through the heart when she chose me to discuss her names, weight, & cravings with. Congrats :).

8 years ago


While I was ttc for 6 yrs, finally conceived via ivf, both my best friends got pregnant with their first babies. They both broke the news to me via text with an ultrasound pic. It seems kind of impersonal but I actually preferred it. It gave me time to process the news privately and cry...a lot. Once I got over my initial sadness about my own situation I was able to call and congratulate them without forcing myself to sound happy. I'm glad it wasn't in person where I would have had to paste a fake smile on. Everyone can tell when you do that!

8 years ago


Thanks so much everyone for sharing your tips and your stories! I have seen her deal with her sisters become pregnant and I know it is difficult. I did tell her over the phone (she lives half a country away from me), and apparently I made it sound like something absolutely terrible had happened. So when I finally told her I am pregnant, she said "that's it? That was mean, I thought something bad happened! This isn't bad! I'm so excited for you" Lol so for better or worse, it worked out I think. She put on a brave face/voice, although I am sure she may feel differently inside, once she's processed it.

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