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Depression after miscarriage/d&c...36 years old trying for second child
Guess I just want some words of wisdom. At 9 weeks pregnant we found out the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks...had d&c a week ago due to no signs of miscarrying on my own. We tried for 4 months and now I just feel hopeless. Like it's not going to happen or I will miscarry again if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again. I will be 37 in December. I know that time is not on our on side. I'm beating myself up for waiting so long to try again as we have a 3 year old. I desperately want him to have a sibling. I feel so down and fight back tears all the time and still think about that day we found out the heartbeat had stopped. Is it typical to be depressed for a while like this? Thank you in advance for the feedback:)
4 Answers • 8 years ago
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Hi, I can imagine how heartbreaking it can be as my sister went through the same thing two years ago. It is completely normal to feel sad and upset. It is a big loss and definitely you will grieve. But rest assured that you will go on to have a healthy baby. My sister was 34 when this happened, three months later she conceived again and went on to have a lovely healthy lil baby girl. Sometimes for whatever reason the pregnancy is not viable, but that does not mean you will not have anymore children. You already have one lovely 3 year old and I am sure a sibling will come along as soon as you are ready. Age is definitely always a worry, but I know a lot of 40yr olds who have gone on to have text book pregnancies with no issues. So don't worry about things you have no control over. Think positive and cheer up! Maybe your baby was not ready to come into this world just yet but will come back to you soon. Good luck and baby dust, you are in my prayers!
8 years ago
I have had four miscarriages and one live birth. I totally understand your worries, I have them myself but try to remain positive. My last miscarriage was in June and It does get better. Don't give up hope. Try keep yourself busy and remember that the odds are with you. Hugs and baby dust.
8 years ago
Dear Bebe78, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope my story will help you find some peace. I too had a MMC I was 11 weeks along and the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks & 5 days, I ended up having a DNC on April 30th, as my body would not do it on it's own. I went through serious depression for a while after, because I was 40 and was convinced my husband and I had waited too long to try for another baby. After going to my OB 6 weeks later he assured me that although our age (I'm 41 now) was a little hurdle, there was absolutely no reason we couldn't keep trying & have a happy and healthy pregnancy. After taking a break to regroup and grieve our loss, we are now TTC again. I have changed my diet to include more fruits and veggies, I have also cut caffeine completely out of my diet and take prenatal vitamins and have started using pre-seed, & exercising a little more. Give yourself time to heal and grieve your loss, then when you are ready start again, but do not give up hop
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