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First and foremost, I'm so sorry for your experience with your first doctor. That sounds horrid and such a gross negligence and abuse of your trust. I think it's important that you focus on getting past the emotional wounds of your experience before you go through any major life changes like a marriage or new baby. I never advocate for tricking someone into parenthood. That shouldn't even be an option on your list and the fact that it is points to your need for help dealing with your past. Likewise, getting married solely so you can try to conceive is a recipe for disaster. If you haven't already, you should also see an ob-gyn and request lab work to check your hormone levels just in case an imbalance is contributing to your depression. That should be one part of your care. A counselor or psychologist should be another part of the care you're receiving right now. Just know that a new pregnancy is not going to cure the hurt you're feeling and a baby deserves you healthy and happy.

Oh no, I would never trick my fiancé into having a kid or purposely get pregnant behind his back. I feel that behavior like that is very deceitful and wrong, but even so I know a lot of people that have done it. Its actually a really common answer. I've already been to counseling and nothing has made me feel better. The only thing that slightly improved my mood was getting another dog. So now I have my 2 babies, they are just covered in fur and spoiled rotten. I'm only 22 but I really feel my biological clock ticking, I started my periods at 9, they have always been heavy and extremely uncomfortable. I was diagnosed with PCOS at 16 and was told it would be incredibly difficult to conceive due to hormone imbalances and irregular cycles, sometimes going 4 months without a period. Something deep down inside of me is saying that that might have been my only chance to have kids.