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The only thing that will help u is time and knowing everything has a reason. My boys are nine and ten now . In 2012 I married and moved 800 miles away from home. I became pregnant in august and was so excited. A week later I started to bleed and miscarried. I was arguing with my husband when it happend and held great guilt that I caused it. To make it worse I miscarried on my husbands birthday. I was heartbroken . I bought a puppy. Thought it would fill the void it didn't. August of 2014 I fell pregnant again. It was the most stressful nerve tacking pregnancy. My daughter is now 14 months old and she is my shining star on my dark days. I always think if I didn't miss carry I wouldn't have her in my life and I couldn't imagine life without her. U will fall pregnant I promise and when u meet the love of your life u will realize gods plan. I'm so sorry u are going thru this. This website helped immensely when I went thru it. Just reading chatting asking questions. U r notalone ipromise

Unfortunately your biological clock wait for no man. You need to sit down and have a really good chat with your husband and explain that you can't wait 5 years. Dealing with the loss, eh? God I wish I knew, I miscarried in May and then July and the 2nd time it has hit me like an iron fist. I feel devastated, I want to cry everyday and don't you find everywhere you go there's pregnant women everywhere or someone announces they having a baby!! But wish them well and be pleased for them, it's their journey and you'll get yours soon too. Take your folic acid, relax (easy for me to say) and be nice to yourself. I've started to think that it will happen not when your ready but when there's a baby ready for you. Please talk to someone closer to home if you are beside yourself, don't struggle. My thoughts are with you and I hope it happens for you very soon.xxxx

You are not alone. I miscarried in April and my heart still breaks. Sometimes I am fin and sometimes all I want to do is cry. I lost my baby while in Midwifery school, that was awful! I was surrounded by pregnant and birthing women while mourning the child i lose. You need someone to talk to my dear, someone who will listen and help you work through your grief. Sometimes, men just don't understand. It isn't their body, they don't grow attached the way we do, they don't have the hormones either. It is hard for them to understand. I hope I am not being too forward, but why 5 years? Thats an awful long time!

https://vimeo.com/144007353 This song is for women who lost their child before birth...i understand.