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This is rough - For us and the guys! When I was pregnant with my daughter, my husband only showed any sort of symptom sympathy if it could lead to danger to our daughter ( I have placenta previa and bled several times, and went into preterm labor several times), otherwise.

Whenever I complained about something (Like the fact I couldn't eat anything but red grapes after 6PM my ENTIRE pregnancy), he would always just say "You're the one who wanted to get pregnant". He loves our daughter, but he was VERY weirded out by the whole process. He had no interest in sex once he knew I was pregnant, (which was fine because the doctor said no to it once i Was diagnosed with PP), he didn't want to feel the baby kick or anything. He was VERY excited about her arrival, but the entire process of a child growing inside me just freaked the hell out of him.

Some guys are really into it, and sympathetic, and some are just business as usual.

I am sorry this is happening to you. I am not pregnant but my other half seems to be unsympathetic with the whole ttc part. Yes he is actively trying but every time I try to talk to him about the whole "not be able to get pregnant," he just tells me, "it will happen when it happens." After a year of trying you actually get tired of hearing that.

My partner was like this too. I had severe morning sickness and couldn't eat anything and he kept telling me to just harden up. I think it's hard for them because it's happening to us and they don't get any symptoms. Wish there was a way that you could share your symptoms with them! Mine got a bit better after his mother gave him a good talking to. She came over one day to see me and I was balling my eyes out and told her how sick i felt. Hope things get better for you soon :)

Your fiancé is missing closeness. If you don't want intimacy right now show him that you love him by giving him special attention, a little neck rub, a massage for his feet.....things like that can warm up a man's heart and he will become more sensitive towards all your needs. GL!

Thank you for all your replies it's great to know I'm not alone on this one and good to hear other peoples stories! We are going away for the weekend so hopefully we can get chance to relax and talk about things :) good luck to you all! xxx