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Oh dear, sorry you are going through this. I found that the bigger I got the more scared my husband was to touch me, I think it freaks them out I case they hurt the baby. I am sure he's attracted to u, you are having his beautiful baby! Your body isn't wat it use o be, you both have to get use to it, you as well as him. And I think at that stage of pregnacy it becomes more about the baby and less about the sexual activities. Pregnancies do strange things to couple sex life but it's normal esp towards the end. I was overdue with mine upto 41weeks, I tried to Drd at 40 weeks to try and make me appear but hubby was very hesitant, I literally had to pin him down! Lol yes all shame goes out the windw wen ur preg and tired. Don't take it to heart dear, you will get your body back and things will get back to normal between u two :). Just cherish your last few weeks, you're soon gonna meet your bAby!!!

thank you :) it means a lot to hear this. like i said, it's really not about the sex. i dont mind that so much as i can make myself feel good "down there" ;p but its like he barely touches me, period! i completely understand if he feels uncomfortable having sex with me, i get that! but to not really rub my belly or caress my back or neck or anything like he used to...doesnt make sense to me. especially the kisses! it really does hurt me. my pre-pregnancy weight was 105 (underweight) and i am now 148! i feel like a fat blob, and he says my eyes and lips and hair are all pretty...but what about the rest of me?? :( again, thank you for your very kind response. it does help. i really hope i can just find the patience to get through and hope for the best when im not pregnant anymore...

When I was heavily pregnant with my bubbas I felt like my hubby withdrew from me too. When I look back it was probably partly me. I didn't feel attractive and frankly we are very vulnerable. I really needed the reassurance from hubby but I could barely get him to sit still long enough to feel the baby kick. I would sit on the couch myself and yell out 'the baby is really kicking come see' and hubby would look from the doorway and say 'yeah, they do that'. Ouch! I felt so insecure but put on a brave face. It's hard to explain but I do get the need to feel adored and I think it's a little like trying to hide fear from a scary dog. When we don't feel beautiful we put off vibes and I swear men pick up on it and retreat. I can guarantee you you are beautiful even if you feel like beached whale. I can promise u he's boasting to his mates about his beautiful pregnant wife! :)

I found this link that might be helpful!
http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/for-dad/landing-page.aspx