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To be honest with you, I don't think that ever goes away unless you finally have a child. I have wanted to give up so many times but I know that as soon as I think that I'm okay and can move on, something will happen and I will want to try again. I'm always jealous of those that can have babies easily and that have already had babies and want to have more when their babies are less than a year old. I want just one more. That's it. I don't feel like it's much to ask. I have put my body through a ton to be able to have one and nothing has worked over the course of several years. I'm not a believe in the Big Guy but I will say this, I believe that it takes time. More time for some than others but the truth is, when it's all said and done and we have the children that we have tried so hard for, all of the jealousy and emotions of TTC won't matter anymore. Also, it's also okay to not be happy for someone. Just don't let the feelings overwhelm your personality. Nobody likes a bitch, lol.

I know. I try not to let it consume me. With social networking every post is an ultrasound picture, gender reveal or family pics! Jealousy is an evil thing!! Hopefully one day I can blast all my happiness everywhere.

I did tht too, I went through a time of not being able to look at pregnant women without feeling a weird twinge, like a jab to the heart--we did finally have a healthy boy and it went away...my loss was at 17 weeks. So it hurt really bad, Iam currently pregnant but think I may lose this one too.

@samantha- That is one of the reasons why I don't bother with social media. When your time comes, you won't be as bad as they are with "blasting happiness" because you struggled to have a child and that gives you a level of respect for others that some women could never understand. It's because of that respect that you will probably be better about being sensitive to the feelings of others. Some women have no tact and "blast happiness" nonstop while the rest of us are dying inside. It's one thing to be overjoyed because of a pregnancy and it's another thing to gloat.

Last week's church sermon was about contentment in one's life. I have been struggling with this during the past 16+ months TTC without success so far. I fully understand all the emotions connected to TTC as our family has been dealing with fertility issues of various forms and several miscarriages in the past 25 years. What I have learned is that jealousy towards others that have succeeded is not only a sin but embitters a person deep inside with negative side effects on spiritual, emotional, and physical well being. On the other hand, God will delight in the contentment we have despite our immediate circumstances and He will bless those that faithfully keep going trusting Him. Best wishes and the Lord's blessings.

You have to try and focus just on yourself. Everyone has been through something. I've found it so easy getting preg, however I can assure you I've often thought when is it gonna be my turn and sure enough I have my turn now. I'm 4 mths preg but......... That's not before 4m/c's all except one I saw heartbeats 3 D&C's surgeries and 2 chemicals all within 12 mths so although you may feel jealous of others who may make it sound easy you never really no what they've been through to get there. 5 months TTC is such a short time. I know it feels like forever but you've had 1 mc so u know u can get preg. I'm certain you will have your time very sooner just focus on you and try and forget other woman's BFP . Best of luck to you

All of your comments are very uplifting, thank you ladies. This site is full of so much support and reminds me I am not alone in my struggle.

I have had all those feelings! I finally let go and let God take over then not too long after that I got pregnant with my daughter, who is now 4. I just stopped trying so hard and charting everything and just enjoyed my husband.

Just remember...Being jealous doesn't make you a bad person, no matter what people say. It's all in how you handle it.

Your feelings are completely normal. I struggled to conceive and after 1 miscarriage, 2 chemical pregnancies, and about a year of trying (and an infertility doctor), it finally happened. But until it did, seeing pregnant ladies was hard. I wanted what they had so, so much. Anger and jealousy are perfectly normal emotions to have and does not make you a bad person in any way... it just means you are normal and are going through something really hard. I believe anger is actually part of the grieving process, which is essentially what you are going through right now.
I wish you the very best of luck.