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Have you thought about getting help to cope with your feelings? My dear friend had to sought out help after a year of trying to cope on her own. She had a misscarriage at 8 weeks and then again at 3 months. We was ttc buddies on a social network. She took a long break to deal with the aftermath and decided to seek help. When her DH talked her into trying again she went and had test done to see if she was okay to ttc and was diagnosed with a progesteron defficency (spell check) she became pregnant with her son and was succesful. I am so sympathetic towards your situation and i can only imagin the conflicting emotions you must feel. It sounds to me your heart desires one thing but your mind is going against it to protect your heart. You may want to seek some help to get a more solid decision on if you are willing to try again or if maybe you just want to put the whole idea out for awhile. Either way i really wish the best for you luvbug!

I am sorry for your losses. Many of us here have experienced miscarriages as well and that's why I love being able to connect on here and receive and offer support for persons TTC. I can relate so much with your situation. DH and I been TTC since July 2012. Our 4 year old daughter constantly pleads for a sibling. We miscarried last year April and it was hard to explain to her that that baby was gone. Since the MC, I was unable to start 'trying' again until December of last year. Like you, I couldn't fathom the idea of the possibility of losing another pregnancy. Even now, I'm still scared. But I have to put my fears behind me because I have to remind myself that my desire to have another child is greater than than the fear of possibly miscarrying again. Keep the faith. Seek counseling if you need a professional to help you with your grief or despair and never give up. Wishing you all the best from the bottom of my heart!

I also have a 5 year old son. I had 2 miscarriages in 2012 after trying since 2010 and then an ectopic last year during which I lost a tube. We are still trying and hoping. I keep looking at the boxes of baby stuff in our spare room wondering if i should sell it all. You just feel in limbo and cant make any long term decisions. I am 35 so I hope its my time soon. I wish you all the luck in the world. Just remember you are not alone xxx

I understand that feeling of not knowing how you feel and the emptiness of it all. I just had a miscarriage a month ago and every time I'm around friends or family or see these beautiful pregnant women. I'm jealous and angry all over again. I have two beautiful kids with a previous relationship and those pregnancy were horrible. I finally found someone who treats me good and adores me and I can't stand the idea of not giving him a child. He has a daughter also from a previous relationship who he hasn't ever really raised entill recently due to her being overseas. But he has always given her the best and she has never been with out. Our kids are 14,10 and 9 and we know adding another baby would be gods greatest addition to are already gifted lives. I have the fertility issues and Iam burden with the loss daily. I'm always mad and sad and walking in a fog and waiting for it to get easier. Gone but not forgotten 10/9/14 my Angel Baby