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How can I get my mom to stop asking if I'm pregnant?
Before I got married I didn't tell my parents that we were trying to have a baby. I don't really share personal information like that with my family. I find it really uncomfortable to talk about serious things.
Since I didn't tell them we were trying, I didn't tell them we were having trouble conceiving.
So when I got pregnant, I didn't tell a lot of people, because I was waiting until things were okay to tell them. I didn't want to tell them if I had a miscarriage.
That's exactly what happened. The pregnancy was ectopic and terminated just after 6 weeks.
My mom just talks about how much she wants a grandbaby. She acts like I'm getting to old to wait. (I'm only 25) It hurts because I want a baby so badly but a big part of the reason we've had trouble is my stress. She means well, but it's hard to even talk. I don't want to tell her because I know she would be upset that I haven't told her sooner. Plus, I'm past the sympathy stage, and don't want to bring it up. Advice?
4 Answers • 9 years ago
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memberI would be very straight with her. "Mom, stop asking me if I'm pregnant. Stop asking me when I'm giving you grandchildren. If you bring this up again I will hang up/leave." Then stick to it. Eventually it should get through to her. I'm sorry about this, I would kill my mother if she were that type! :(
9 years ago
I agree with the previous responses, you have to be straight/honest with her (as uncomfortable as that may be). She has no idea that she's stressing you out because she doesn't even know you're trying. Perhaps if you say something along the lines of, "Trust me, when I'm pregnant you'll be the first to know," or something like that, she may pick up on the fact you're actively trying but back off a little. Plus, you are still young and have lots of time to conceive, so don't stress about that either! Best of luck.
9 years ago
memberAnother option, if being serious and straightforward isn't comfortable, could be to make a joke about it. Tell her something ridiculous, like that you've reconsidered breeding, but are strongly considering adopting orangutans instead, and that as soon as your first is delivered, you'll invite her over to snuggle it. All relationships with parents are different, it's hard to say what might work, but you clearly don't want to talk about it with her, so maybe a silly or obnoxious response (or several of them) will put her off the topic. Good luck.
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