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There is never a perfect time. Never. My husband and I wanted to have a baby so bad, but he traveled all of the time and he didn't want to have a kid he couldn't raise. He had a very well paying job and mine was a decent job. We do own our home, but I don't think that matters too much. We do have a lot of debt from student loans. He quit his job to be home. He took a not so good paying job. Then he got laid off. I couldn't get insurance. We were waiting for a perfect time that would never happen. We decided to just go with it and everything fell into place. He had gotten a better job just before we found out we were pregnant, was given a substantial raise and I was able to get Medicaid until we were able to get insurance. While I wouldn't tell anyone with no means to try to have a baby, sometimes things happen and sometimes you build yourself back up. Sometimes putting things on hold is the right decision. But, it is up to you. Good luck to you.

Unless you are pressed for time with TTC because of your age I would first enjoy the wedding and acknowledge its deep meaning and purpose in all aspects. Why not begin with the basics and then start a family later. Best wishes and the Lord's blessings.

I am soooo in your same situation. Read my journal entry. I am living with my DF who has never set a date with me and we never really had the money to get married the way we wanted to. Now since we have been living together, I guess I haven't shown him enough initiative and know-how to feel comfortable marrying me anymore. He is not sure I'm cut out for marriage. I feel like I am just learning and that it will work out in the end. We have had several conversations about how MY career is going.

I want a wedding too or at least to get married, but now he is saying his not ready for marriage. I know that is because he doesn't feel secure with me. I kinda wish I would have waited to get pregnant, but actually he told me he wanted me to have his baby several times in the last 6 months. I even took bc, but antibotics last month might have messed that preventative measure up!

Just focus on what you want. Like for me, I always did want a baby. If not ready, don't.