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You are not being selfish .I'm sorry ur going thru that .But it's gift from God he should be blessed from it. .

Nope you're not being selfish, some women know when they feel complete with their family, I have 6 and yearn for one more, so give hubby time and talk it thro, after all it did take two to make x

A positive HPT is a positive HPT. A new life is a life and who cares about vacations, money, etc. Where are your husband's priorities?!? It is an absolute blessing to be expecting and I hope he will get around to that conclusion. All the best.

To late now ;), maybe make this the last one :) And you can get help for the stress from the oldest child. All the people I know who have four or more kids that are now grown have all managed to travel being a baby is such a temporary thing and your hubby should realise this. Travel closer to home for a while

I would only call it selfish if you intentionally got pregnant while knowing that he did not want another. If it is an oops then its his fault as much as yours and like others said not much you can do about it now. What options does he think you have? Good Luck I'm sure as the pregnancy goes on he will adjust to the idea of having another. In the meantime I would work on controlling my emotions a little more with your younger one to help ease things. It would be hard for anyone to see their partner already stressing over the kids they have only to find out they were pregnant again maybe part of his concern is for you.

My husband freaked out for a couple days cause we have 5 kids & found out I am pregnant with #6. Now a few days later, he has calmed down and Is fine with it. Hopefully your husband will calm down too.

Was it an accident or did you plan on having a 4th baby without telling him? If the latter is the situation, then I can see how that would be selfish. However if it was an accident, then he has no reason to freak out on you. It takes two to tango and if you guys were going at it without a raincoat, then it's just as much his fault as it is yours. Apparently he is just in shock and I'm sure that he will eventually settle down once the shock goes away. He is probably just worried about money and the feelings of the other children. There is nothing wrong with that because those two things are very important when you bring another baby into the picture. Give him time to cool off. His actions don't mean that he doesn't want it, he just needs time to calm down.

Your not being selfish Hunn.. Cuz I got two lil girls I don't feel complete until I have my third is just some families don't feel complete so don't worry there a lot of us that want more kids and want to feel complete.. He will eventually calm down and realize you's are have a baby the gods send you is a blessing..

I think he's just stressing over finances and attention required, and of course being able to take a vacation. Give him a few days to come to terms with the gift God has given you two, then talk things over with him. Sometimes men need a little consoling, too =). At some point, definitely not now, you could ask him how he feels about a vasectomy !!

I am sure, his response is just a reaction. He isn't thinking clearly and is most likely in shock. Try not to be hurt by is actions and words and instead try (hard as it may be) to relate to what he is feeling.
He is most likely worried about the financial implications. He may be stressed out at work and has been looking forward to a vacation and now realizes this is not possible. Understanding that he does in fact have ligit feeling may help you. That being said...it doesn't mean his reaction is the right response, or that he is being fair to you. He is not being fair to you...BUT don't let that bother you too much, we are all guilty of reacting inappropriatly to things. Give him time, he will come around...especially if you are understanding to HIS needs and sympathetic to him...without compromising the fact...that you are not being selfish...that a child is a gift...and that he participated in the dead that created this precious miracle.
Blessings