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It is very normal. When I had my first child I told him that I am not having another baby because I can never love another baby like him. (No no mistake but I was a young mother) You just got to explain to him that you won't love him any less and that he is a big boy and can do big boy things while the baby needs people to teach him how to do the same big boy things. Tell him how you was with him and make sure to incorporate him in all the baby needs like letting him hold the bottle or getting you a pamper. Let him know that a big brother and big son role is very important and he is the man for the job.

Good luck and congrats

I felt the same as you do when I was pregnant with #2. I had NO idea how I was going to love another child as much as I loved my Ava. I felt it was impossible. But then I heard that first cry and I was hit with such love. Instantly, I was just in love with my 2nd daughter as I was with my 1st. When they say your love doesn't divide, but rather multiplies, it is the 100% truth. And while I do miss it being just mommy & Ava at times, I couldn't imagine my life w/o Vivian. I make sure to have just mommy & Ava time at least once a day. As for your son adjusting, I don't know his age, but my oldest was 2 yrs 9 mos when her sister was born. There was def a period of adjustment, but from day one, she ADORED her baby sister. Her only issue was sharing mommy. The biggest thing that helped, was giving her odd jobs to do when I was feeding the baby, etc to take her mind off of it. It is a big adjustment for all, but just know that he will always have a sibling in this world to lo

I was the same way when I was Pregnant with my second daughter.. my oldest was 4yr and 3 months when my second baby was born.. And she adjust very good Me and my fiancé will have her part take in some of the things all the ultrasounds the appointments,let her rub my belly,the day after I had the baby she came to see her baby sis she fell in love with her.. At home she help me with getting diapers holding her giving bottle and show both my girls love now she 5yrs 8 months old and the baby is 1yr 4 months.. Wow how big they get you will do find Hun you just talk to your oldest and let him be involve in something's with the baby so he don't feel left out..

I don't have any kids yet, but from my perspective it sounds like you're just a really great mom and it seems like a totally normal (or, super-normal! like normal, only on the awesome end) thing to worry about. I think you'll do great at making both little ones feel special :)