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I need advice! Jealous of a friend...
So my husband and I are ttc #1 and right now I'm 7 dpo, so I have like 5-6 days left before a good test will tell me anything close to reliable news. Meanwhile, I drove a friend today to her embryonic transfer appointment (she's single and doing IVF using donors). She'll find out if she is pregnant in 10 days. The friend and I have been arguing on and off this year because she hasn't adapted to my not being single anymore. When we argue she complains about how she has absolutely no one to share her daily experiences with and insinuates that that person should be me.
In light of that, I'm feeling possessive over the chance to be pregnant this month! I know its actually a hypocritical feeling because I enjoy being in the same boat with people here, virtually, but I don't want to share this two week wait with her after everything else that has gone on this year.
Any helpful suggestions on how I can deal?
3 Answers • 9 years ago
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maybe distance yourself from her during your 2ww? Or distance yourself from her completely if you feel that's necessary until you achieve pregnancy and don't have that feeling. It's ok to do that. Sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do until we're at a better place in our lives. TTC can be super stressful, and you don't need the added stress! good luck!
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Keep in mind she's kinda cheating... IVF when there is no actual infertility issues except the lack of a partner to conceive with is like cheating to me. If she is healthy and fertile and would otherwise have no issues conceiving naturally then this IVF is kinda the short route. It may take longer with you simply because you are doing it the "old fashioned way". I think in the long run she'll end up jealous of YOU because you and your husband will be raising a child together and will have conceived that child together out of love. Not that she won't love her child but she won't have someone helping her raise him/her who loves her baby as much as she does. So just keep in mind that you will probably enjoy your pregnancy more than she will. She might need you a little but remember that it isn't about her it's also about YOU.
9 years ago
Well it sounds like she needs to realize you are married and your life is different now. Your family should be one of the most important things in your life. You don't need stress if you are trying to conceive. Voice your feelings and concerns to her. She will understand if she is a "true" friend. GL and I hope you find yourself pregnant soon!!
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