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I don't have personal experience, but my sister in law went through a similar experience. She tried for years to have a baby before seeking help. By the time she did, she was in her mid 30s. She had low egg count and poor egg quality. After several failed IUIs they told her to try IVF (due to age and egg issues), but she hesitated for a couple of years due to cost. She finally did IVF in her late 30s and it was rough. They had a hard time harvesting eggs due to low count and the eggs they did fertilize didn't hatch properly. She finally did conceive and had a healthy baby girl, but they told her if she wanted a second child, she would have to start fertility treatments almost immediately due to age and her egg issues. She tried again, and eventually did have a second at age 42. I know she wishes more than anything that she had listened to the drs earlier because she wanted 4 kids total. They told her it wasn't even worth trying for a 3rd - at least trying with expensive

treatments.

You can always get a second opinion if you feel uncomfortable with your dr. There is no harm in that. But in the end, it may be cheaper to do IVF than repeated rounds of IUI, esp if they have a low chance of success. Best wishes! I hope you get your baby soon!

If u want try for 3 months. Check ur tubes also. If nothing works then better go for ivf. All the best.

Wow, thank you ladies for such amazing answers! It is good to hear from someone with experience in exactly the same issues. I am due to clean my tubes tomorrow, and will try one more IUI, and in June, once we know what kind of insurance we have, I will do IVF asap! I don't want to lose valuable time, since I have such low egg count!

I have mixed experiences with doctors like probably most of us. 9 years ago we were trying for our 2nd child and saw a reproductive endocrinologist that came recommended. He barely took the time to talk to us. We had transferred all of our files to him and he never referred to anything in them. He was apparently short on time and said that we needed to proceed with donor eggs. 9 years ago I was 38 years old. We left his office and did not feel good about this visit. I then saw another dr who emphasized looking at the whole person. He suggested a book and some supplements for consideration and told us to chart. We did conceive 3 healthy children after that naturally without donor eggs. I am not saying you will become successful like I was, nor do I recommend disregarding your age. You clearly need to move forward; but not every advice coming from doctors is trustworthy. You do need to question at times their motivation in regards to money, especially in this field.

I would think he is just trying to maximize your chances due to your age and low egg count.if your able to id just follow his advice :)

IVF is prob. the way to go.....there are no guarantees with it though......Know a lot of people that did repeated IVFs and it never worked for them. Good luck with everything.

If I were your age (I'm 43) I would do all three:
-1. try natrually for 3 months by reading and applying "the fertility diet" book by Sarah Dobbyn. I has good advice on supplements for egg quality, diet, sleep, exercise, etc & a close friend of mine conceived & gave birth to healthy twin boys naturally @ age 42 following the advice in that book.
-2. Continue with 1 more round of IUI while doing #1 if you want, due to cost.
-3. Go for IVF in 3 months if these things don't work. If you think about it, even with IVF, it may take a while to get pregnant and have the baby, then you'll likely have a few non-pregnant months afterwards. Then, you'll be ??38 trying for a second if that's your plan. I wasted a few precious years w/o doing any of these things and due to cost of IVF, but if I could do it over, these are things I would do, especially since your ovarian reserve is low and is of poor quality (at least right now, but take steps to change it!).
Keep on this si

Thank you, eat2nourishyourbody! I have just ordered the book you recommended through Amazon. This cycle of IUI I had terrible side effects of Chlomid (OHSS) and need to take a break from drugs for the next month. After that my doctor said we will reconsider our options, given my reaction to chlomid and will try for IVF. So fingers crossed! Sticky vibes to your girls!