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Mine does that, I think because it's his way to avoid the possibility of me actually getting pregnant and then having to bear another loss. He denies that, though, and says he isn't avoiding sex, that it just happens that he overdid it working in the yard or that he fell asleep watching that movie or whatever.

I am having similar problems. My husband is traveling a lot for work and so he IS tired when he comes home. Then when we should start to bd, he always claims we are starting too early....Once we almost missed our window. Now I am just showing him the positive OPK with the blinking smiley and he knows I mean business. He also wants another child but when it comes to "getting to work " he likes to slack off. Our added problem is that we have to bd at midnight or later trying to avoid our 4 kids. This has become so stressful and annoying at times that we decided to do IUIs for the next few months to get a break from this routine. Now there is no question of When and Where. It is a neutral office procedure and better for us at the moment with our busy and hectic schedules. Best wishes and the Lord's blessings.

I love that answer Phillips. In truth it really is not easy to do "it" at my house, it takes some effort. We have 3 kids so we do not have privacy and my Husband works second shift so he is not ready to go to bed at the same time as me. I am doing OPK this month so maybe I will wave the test around after all that's what he is "saving it for". I think it would be nice to be looked at as more then a ovulating woman in heat, but maybe this month will just be like that LOL

There really is nothing romantic about this whole thing anymore, unfortunately. It is work, really hard work to get everything done from dr's office visits to ultrasounds and bloodtests to medications. At the time of ovulation, who can harbor any romantic feelings after such a lengthy and stressful preparation ?! Actually, I am feeling sorry at times to have to pressure my husband so much in these situations. He is such a trooper and truly supports me in trying for our 5th child at age 47. I do often feel like an "ovulator", but my husband must feel like a "spermmachine" himself. I will give him a back rub tonight :). Best wishes to all.

My DH is diabetic and it's hard to get him to feel like BDing (he has no problem BDing, just not always in the mood when his sugar is high). To compensate, I learned my cycles really well (which was difficult since they were irregular) so we could try to BD on the most fertile days.

The good news is that BOTH cycles that I conceived, we only BDed one time and it was the day before ovulation. I always found that amusing since so many other months we would BD several times (all well-timed) with no luck. I also tried not to mention the OPK results because it just adds pressure to him to perform. I tried to keep it as casual as possible, not like "we have to do it tonight!"...it would just stress him out;-) lol

It took us over a year to conceive my DD and this time was within a few months. Good luck to you! Lots of baby dust!

With our third child we also succeeded with BD one day before ovulation with one time trying only. But it is often impossible to pinpoint exactly the day before ovulation which is the most fertile day. To be on the safe side we have to try more often; just can't afford to miss the window. The best to all.

Mine was doing that for a little while, but some, umm, er...oral foreplay always seems to get him in the mood really fast! He said is was "psychological stress" of having to perform on a time schedule, but I've heard no complaints since I made this change, lol.