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If she is your best friend then you will let love win out and tell her that you are jealous of her baby. If she is really your friend she will understand. Babies are innocent and it is not your friend's fault that you cannot conceive and truly, if she could help you I am sure she would. After two years ttc I understand the bitterness of not being able to have a baby, but I also know deep down that it is not someone else's fault that I am struggling and that helps me to keep my bitterness in check. It doesn't go away, but it is eased somewhat. Be honest with your friend. If she is your friend in truth then she will understand even if she hasn't been through it herself. God bless and I hope you get your Baby soon!

thanks so much for the kind words... I never thought of telling her because I didn't want to rain on her parade. I just told her a few weeks ago about or ttc struggles (her husband is always around and I didn't want to talk about it in front of him) and i thought maybe she would take the hint that it's hard for me, but apparently not. I might have to distance myself from them a bit, although that's not want I want because I do want to be an "aunt" to the baby. at least for a little while. thanks again, good luck to you!

There is an old wives tale that if you hold peoples babies that you will get pregnant faster. Might just be my country, everyone keeps giving me babies to hold. I think I'd love that baby big time, he/she could bring your luck. Make sure you smell the new baby smell. I'm sure it will be your time soon and you do feel more for your own baby than anyone elses, so don't worry about that!

Our best friends just gave birth to their "accidental, not wanted" twins 2 days ago, the same day as I got the AF. This was 2 days ago and I'm so jealous, angry and sad. They have asked us to be god parents and I can't bring myself to go see the babies. I feel like an awful person so I understand the mixed emotions. I want to be happy for them but I have been ttc since way before they got pregnant and I feel torn. I think we ttc'ers need to help ourselves first. I have been turning down baby showers and yes it may hurt someone's feelings but I feel like I am so emotionally unstable that I need to do what's best for me. Infertility hurts beyond words. Hang in there girls...

I forgot to say that I got AF the day she was born too! I had sympathy cramps the night my friend started having contractions... When I get down on myself I feel like the universe is punishing me for mistakes I made in my past. I know it's irrational, and though my fiance tells me "stay positive" it's just so hard when you think your body is just not capable.. Thanks for all the advice, good luck to all you ladies as well! It helps to know I'm not alone in this...

I know what you are going through everyone is having babies. I been trying for headed to 2 years now for my boy. i get so mad when someone else said they are pregnant. my sister in law got pregnant and her tubes was tied. i was crying when i found out. but now my nephew is here and acourse i love him. everytime i hold him i keep thinking how i want my boy. i was there when she was inlabor inside i was crying in the inside. so i put on a fake smile and just go with it.