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Live in the moment- enjoy being childless (for now), but know that if your dream is to be a mom, then there is no reason to believe you won't be. Maybe take a vacation. Be spontaneous while you can. Talk about your life together and your plans. Dream. Do you live in the place you want to raise a child? Do you have the support of your friends and family for when you have a baby? Even when we think we have it all figured out, life may change some details.

Wow, thank you for your very kind words of advice. I will take all of this into consideration. This means a lot. Thanks so much again.

Honestly, I don't think there is any way to get over it. I have known my DH since we were 19. I have wanted to have his children since we were 23. We got married at 26. I felt ready to start trying at 27 but he wasn't ready. We didn't start trying until we were 29. Now I am 30 and he is 31 and we have been trying for over a year, currently doing our first cycle on fertility drugs.

In all that time, since I was 23, I can't imagine that there was anything I could have done to forget about. So, instead of forgetting about it, I tried to channel it. My best friend had a baby, so I planned an awesome shower for her and became super aunt. I thought about the things I could do to prepare while waiting for him to be ready, like saving money and getting healthier. Do you have any friends or family in the same boat? I also found it useful to be able to talk to a few trusted sources about it.

So, I wish you luck in channeling your desires rather than trying to get over them!

PurpleChucks, Everyone i know is pretty much preggo or has a baby. i absolutely love babies. my boyfriends friend & her husband came over a couple of days ago with their one month old. i was hesitate to hold her because i knew it was just make me want one even more... & well it did. (my boyfriend said i looked so happy) But i'm trying to look on the positive side of it all for my friends. my best friend since we were 2 (now we are 24) is preggo. i'm gonna be involved with her kids life, but it just seems as if 'when is it my time to become the mom i want to be?' Although, he says it will be soon. he will be 30 this year, i have heard that once a man is 30+ their sperm decreases. I just don't know what to do anymore.