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I've been there, it took me 6 years to concieve number 1 (naturally too) I tried from 33 until 36, including failing IVF and just quit. I though I am going to be childless, so I started planning holidays and scuba diving and drinking, guess what happened, yep a baby. You can get over not having kids (I did, but then got a surprise aged 38).

My best advice to you is to go to a fertility doctor now, make sure your tubes are not blocked, get your AMH checked, check that your husbands fertility is good. Eat loads of vegetables (even juice them), don't drink coffee anymore, no artifical sweetners, start walking to relax. Maybe even try clomid/femara.

I think time is on your side but be proactive about your health, rather than sad - you'll get there

I agree with above....I have been trying for a long long time to have a successful pregnancy...my issue is not getting pregnant its staying that way. I am also very bitter and green eyed monster. its hard when you feel like you are the only one in the world...but believe me you are not alone. there is nothing wrong with feeling that way...i feel the same. Id go and get all the tests done to rule anything out. good luck <3 feel free to message me anytime x

So sorry you are having such a hard time. I have been there, too. I wish I could say something helpful, but I know that all those things that people say (relax and it will happen, etc) are never helpful. I do think you have been given good advice here, though. Testing is important and changes can be made without having to jump into the scarier stuff like iui and ivf. Praying and sending baby dust.

Thank you all for your kind words and advice. I just needed an outlet and knew that if anyone would know my feelings of despair, jealousy and bitterness that this community would understand! I am currently 12dpo on this cycle and am praying for a BFP before af rears her ugly head. I know we can get PG, but like most of you I have had m/c as well. I have my annual OB/GYN exam later this month so if another cycle goes by without success my Dr. is going to review medications and other opions with us.

I just see so many women get PG who don't even WANT a baby and it makes me so angry and sad that we haven't had one yet and desperately want one.

Im one of those people with 4 children, all i can say is dont lose hope i tried for a year with my first had bloods done and was told it was pcos i was given clomid, fell pregnant the first month that was 8 years ago ive since had 3 other childen including twins and im so greatful for them as i never thought i would have any, sometimes your body just needs a kickstart back into things, see a doc and get things moving wish u all the luck your day will come so dont give up :)

AF showed up today... here goes cycle 13. *Cries*

Feel exactly the same iconicone. I'm 33 and I think it's that time where everyone is babying up. Had 11 friends have babies in last year. I've been to 2 Christenings in a week and sister in law is expecting no 2 and step sister due 2 wks after. Both weren't even trying! Been TTC #1 for 2 yrs and waiting for next app after initial fertility referral. I can catch but just can't keep hold :( Very hard feeling like u can't do what ur supposed to but ur not alone. Lots of us find it a challenge to conceive and lots of us feel bitter and jealous. Stay strong, there's always someone else on here who will share ur inner beef! Keep smiling and ur little baby will arrive when u least expect it. Good luck xxxx