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Sounds rough. Not to defend your DH, but I know that it's hard to understand someone else's pain. My mom has a lot of back pain, and it makes her really irritated, and irritated at me when I'm around. I have a hard time not taking it personally and not getting mad back at her. I know the way to respond to my mom is to try to help her relax and relieve her pain, not to get mad back, but it's hard to keep focus on that when she's being irritated at me - I just want to defend myself!

Maybe something similar is going on with your DH? He has trouble taking your perspective and seeing that your moodiness is not your fault, that it's just a normal symptom of pregnancy. Maybe there are ways you can help him become aware of that so he can be more understanding. He should realize that you're carrying his child, and that sometimes he has to just do what's the best for both of you, even if he feels annoyed, and even if you're not treating him how you normally would...

Thanks blueandblack glad someone feels me. I don't like my own moodiness sometimes I catch myself and be like whoa. Maybe the reality will sink in as my pregnancy progress with my dh I'm only a little under 7weeks. I think some men are more visual and because he can't see it he thinks I shouldn't have the emotions associated. I have tried to show him things I researched but he doesn't seem open. I hope he comes around but for now I. will just have to make the best of things.

This is your first baby?
My husband was not that into our first pregnancy, luckily I was really well and it did not bother me. He was not that excited about our first child. Very pleased and proud but very 'Everyone does it'
Fast forward 12 years to our last baby and he was a different man, before and after. It took him becoming a father to realise the full impact.

I guess if you can try to be pleasant and explain rather then get cross ( be the bigger man so to speak) hopefully he will eventually get it.

Do you have some friends or family who are happy to listen and sympathise?

Best of luck sweetie.

This is our first child together we both have children from our previous relationship. It seemed as if we were on the same page ttc. now that we conceived his whole demeanor changed. I think now that reality hit it frightened him I dunno all I know is we're getting more distant by the day. I will try to be the bigger man if it will ease things a bit because I'm really stressing. No I don't really have a support system that's why this site has become a blessing to me. Thanks for responding to me I can now try a different approach:)