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That last part was cut-off for some reason. . ..it is supposed to wrap up with "Thoughts?"

Thank you all in advance.

Repeat after me: it's not my fault. As I understand it, women who have a miscarriage are no more at risk of further miscarriage than any other woman. It's just rotten luck. I have never got so far as the BFP, so I don't exactly know what that's like, but I can only imagine that it is a rollercoaster ride. You need to be gentle with yourself and you can start by not blaming yourself and telling the people in your life who can give you the best support. I couldn't imagine not telling DH because he'd *want* to go through it with me. He would feel upset if I'd bottled up something like that and tried to cope on my own while he had no idea what was going on. But you have to decide what your relationship is like and whether he can listen and look after you in the way you need looking after. Someone else to tell is your doctor.... when you're ready. If it's getting to you and you find it hard to confide in friends, consider being referred to a counsellor. It is their job to listen. Hugs x

I don't have any first hand experience, but I have some friends who have seen the doctor for "repeated loss testing." Maybe something to look into?

My body doesn't know how to produce progesterone properly is the main issue. That was discovered after my second miscarriage. But, one miscarriage was determined to be a blighted ovum. My two successful pregnancies required hormone supplements through the first trimester. So, I had already called to see the doc and was going to get blood work and prescriptions Monday morning.

I am currently going through my first mc. This was our first month trying and I couldn't imagine not telling my DH. He has kept me uplifted and reminds me there is always. Chance to try again ! Today they suggested I start progesterone but I think it is too late but needed to try ! My question is how soon after loss Did u try again ? Hoping next bfp to start progesterone immediately !

I also told a very close friend who I can tell anything and will support me in anyway I need ! Also DH is away and wanted someone to know what is going on !

We waited about 3 months after m/c to try again.

Honey, it could not possibly be your fault. Most woman have many miscarriages or "chemical pregnancies" around the time that their period is due. It is a result of tests that are now so sensitive that we are way more aware than we need to be. I once stood in your shoes. I found out that I was pregnant before my period was to start. I jumped the gun though and told my family. A few days after my period was to start I began bleeding. I ended up in the E.R. I would say something. Significant other means that he is significant enough that you are sharing your life with him. This is apart of both of your lives and it is hurting you. Soon, when the pain subsides you will find yourself holding a little one and this will all seem like a bad dream. For now, let yourself hurt, but know that it is not your fault. It is a peak into a common accurance that we should never have the privilege of being aware of.

I only told my boyfriend. I needed to be able to speak about my feelings with someone, but I didn't want to talk with family or friends because no one knows we are ttc. I really hesitated though talking to my mom or my best friends. My closest friend had a miscarriage so I knew she would understand, but I just couldn't do it. Too painful I guess.
But having a good cry and talk about it with my bf really helped. I felt so much better after.
I'm on my first cycle since the cp and I think I may be feeling the same signs again. I'm scared to death now that it will happen again or worse, as you so unfortunately know, that I will miscarry even later. But sharing my fears with my bf calms me down a bit.
Definitely consider telling yours.
Hugs to you all.