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Hi, I'm sorry I can't answer this question really, but I have been in the same situation, I'm 34 and have wanted a baby forever, but due to mental health I wouldn't allow my self to get pregnant when I was so ill, but last year we decided it was time to try, and not tell any body, then last year my sister turned up and said she was pregnant I broke down in tears, as she new how much I wanted a baby. She didnt even mean to get pregnant forgot her pill and had bad tummy.

I then found out I was pregnant in oct and also found out my friend was pregnant, she didn't tell any one that they were trying, but new full well that we were! I was having problems and in jan lost my baby.

It's really hard to see her growing and know she is due around the same time as I would be.
I love being with my nephew and love the fact he smiles so much when I walk in but it is so hard to leave knowing he isn't mine!

I wish you all the baby dustxx

I completely understand how you feel. My hubby and I have been ttc for 8 months now. Although, I am older than you (44) but still nevertheless, the emotions are the same. It is hard to see pregnant friends of mine on fb or just random strangers out and about. It seems like all of the sudden, everyone is pg but me. So, I do know what you are feeling. Have you both been to the doctors to make sure you both are ok? Good luck you and I hope you get your BFP soon! Keep the faith! Don't stop believing it will happen! : )

It IS hard. My DH and I had been TTC for 3 1/2 years when my Sis In Law told me she was expecting. I know I must have looked shocked and upset. I quickly said I had to go to the bathroom and left the room. I cried like crazy for a couple days. It helped that she knew we were trying and felt bad that she had hurt me. I eventually was happy for them, it was #3 for them, but it still hurt to see her pg. Now her little boy is almost 2 and I love him dearly. We still do not have any.
Like I said, it IS hard. But it DOES get easier. Somedays anyways. :s

Thankyou so much for all your comments, its nice to know im not the only one feeling like this, its so hard as you dont want to seem selfish but he fact that some get pregnant so easily is so frustrating. Im sure when it finally happens (if it does) it will be all the more special. lt just frustrating some people seem to fall pregnant so easily. I think because of the chemical misscarrage it hurts more as well as your always thinking 'what if'. well baby dust to all you lovely ladies we all deserve it!! :) x

I just keep trying to tell myself that my turn is coming. Sometimes it works...sometimes it doesn't. I have been ttc for 28 cycles. I have watched 1 coworker deliver 2 babies and is now pregnant with a 3rd since I have been trying! It is so hard to be around pregnant people so sometimes I avoid those situations...like baby showers. I even boycotted mother's day this year! I hid at home in my pjs and watched crappy tv!

It is very difficult. I understand how you feel. We've been TTC for 2 whole long years now, have had one miscarriage and I've just gotten a BFP for this cycle. I've come a long way in the last 6 months with my fertility, thank god. For a while there it was looking pretty hopeless.

I just have to keep saying to myself that life isn't fair. Sad but true. There will always be someone we know who is richer than you, who has a better job than you, who's fertility is better than you. Just just gotta try and put on a brave face about it. That's what I do, but I have had countless meltdowns behind closed doors :-(

Hey ladies thankyou for you messages,im feeling better today, some days im.fine and then the next im a mess. Think my hormones are pretty up and down so that doesnt help much. sometimes i feel.like i have a split persobality crying one min and happy the next! I will just have to be brave and smile, at least i have my lovely husband family and health :) a little one would just be the icing on the cake!!! lots of baby dust xx

I completely understand. My sister in law conceived the same month as me 6-7 months ago. My mom was thrilled about her pregnancy, upset with mine. I miscarried early on, she still has hers. My mom is still happy for her, and happy I lost mine. I can't help but resent her for it, but I feel like a horrible person for it.

Maybe we'll both feel differently once we see their babies.